{"id":703,"date":"2014-05-01T13:54:15","date_gmt":"2014-05-01T19:54:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theprinciplesofspiritualliving\/?p=703"},"modified":"2014-05-01T13:54:15","modified_gmt":"2014-05-01T19:54:15","slug":"the-power-of-saying-yes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/theprinciplesofspiritualliving\/2014\/05\/the-power-of-saying-yes\/","title":{"rendered":"The Power of Saying &#8220;Yes&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>Have you ever wanted something \u2013 REALLY wanted something! \u2013 but, when it was placed before you there was a moment of hesitation before you accepted it? It\u2019s happened to me. It seems that many of us have a problem saying \u201cyes.\u201d We can be so focused on needing something in our lives that when it (whatever \u201cit\u201d is) appears we find ourselves questioning the arrival. The packaging (or the form in which our good comes to us) may not look like what we expected. It may come quicker than we thought possible. We might even avoid accepting our good because we feel unworthy. So let\u2019s look at some of the reasons that stops us from saying \u201cyes\u201d to life and how to be more receptive to our good.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Packaging \u2013 Wow\u2026that\u2019s a big one in my history. The example I use is the man who asks for help and it comes from the most unexpected source \u2013 the mother-in-law he can\u2019t stand! My personal favorite was perfect, Divine Right guidance that came from an ex-lover who owed me money. Accept THAT one! It wasn\u2019t easy, since he had no intention of repaying me, but by gritting my teeth I got the answer I needed to return to \u201cyes,\u201d meaning peace of mind.<\/li>\n<li>Immediate demonstration \u2013 I love this one and, again, I must tell a story on myself about it. I had been dating the man who is now my partner for a little over a year. We had \u201cthat talk\u201d and decided we wanted to make a go of it (guess it worked as that was nearly 10 years ago). That meant I had to move, so I put in a transfer with my company at the time, expecting it to take about a year. Instead, I got my transfer in <em>less than a month.<\/em> We panicked. I panicked! Should I say \u201cno\u201d to the transfer? A wise friend said, \u201cLet me get this straight. You asked God to provide for you. God did, and now you are going to thumb your nose at the Universe because it happened quicker than your little mind thought possible. Is that about it?\u201d I took the transfer.<\/li>\n<li>Unworthiness \u2013 Here\u2019s where self-doubt comes into play. We may, for whatever reason \u2013 the perfect daily guide, a friend\u2019s encouragement, etc \u2013 decide, \u201cDarn it! I\u2019m going to DO this!\u201d whatever \u201cthis\u201d is. We pray, we meditate, we make plans and create a goal list and VOIL\u00c1! The object of our desire is before us. The logical thing to do is open our arms wide, embrace the gift and give thanks. But we don\u2019t always do that, do we? Sometimes it\u2019s packaging or timing, but often it can be that now that the object of our desire is before us we start to feel shame, unworthiness or guilt.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Let\u2019s not forget the role that wisdom plays in the power of \u201cyes.\u201d There are some people who tell us to say \u201cYes!\u201d to everything. I\u2019m not opposed to accepting my good, in fact I welcome it. But let\u2019s understand that if someone suggests you walk out in front of a bus with him, or accept a poisonous snake as a gift, we acknowledge that what we really mean to say \u201cYes!\u201d to everything that is for our highest good. It\u2019s the process of implied wisdom, using our past experiences in life for a beneficial present and future.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s another way of looking at this. We have enough Easter candy in the house right now to start our own dollar store. If I say \u201cYes!\u201d to my ever-present chocolate cravings every time I pass by the kitchen counter I\u2019ll soon not fit between the counter and the frig. As my chiropractor (a bodybuilder) pointed out to me recently, I can\u2019t be tempted if it\u2019s not there. Well, there is THAT! But, for now, the candy IS there. I get to decide (on a most frequent schedule) to say \u201cyes\u201d or \u201cno\u201d to yet another piece of chocolate. Based on the way my suit felt yesterday when I wore it I\u2019m choosing to say \u201cno\u201d more often. What \u201ccandy of instant gratification\u201d is calling to you right now?<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a suggestion for you to play with over the next week based on the three points outlined above. First, be sure that you really want something before you ask for it and be willing to accept it without deciding exactly how it\u2019s supposed to show up. Second, open the space to accept your good a whole lot quicker than you might be able to imagine. And, third, receive your good with grace and appreciation, knowing that if it\u2019s presented to you that it\u2019s yours to claim! Care to give that a try?<\/p>\n<p>In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,<\/p>\n<p>Terry<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever wanted something \u2013 REALLY wanted something! \u2013 but, when it was placed before you there was a moment of hesitation before you accepted it? It\u2019s happened to me. 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