Do you ever have situations in your life when you feel like you\u2019ve done everything you can to produce the desired outcome, but the whole thing just falls apart\u2026or blows up\u2026or implodes?!? I believe we call that \u201cfrustration\u201d (among other things!). It can often be accompanied by screaming and fist pounding. Doesn\u2019t sound very \u201cspiritual,\u201d does it?<\/p>\n
On the contrary, I think it does! We may be \u201cspirit have a human experience,\u201d but the fact remains we are HUMAN. We are here, on this planet and in these bodies, to participate in the human experience. That implies ALL of the human experience from the joy and ecstasy of love to the anger and pain of unpleasant scenarios. When it comes to the latter it just sucks.<\/p>\n
There are a number of ways we can handle situations like this, but I believe there are two extremes we can observe. One is putting our tail between our legs while we skulk off into the shadows because we think the entire fiasco was our fault (aka, The Grand Martyr Syndrome, <\/em>which has little to do with responsibility and smacks of being a victim). The other is to blame the other party(ies) for the disaster as if we weren\u2019t part of the process. There has to be a happy medium somewhere. Yes, there is always personal responsibility, but in the attempt to accept our part we can ignore other factors that were involved.<\/p>\n I remember in the 1980s how apologies suddenly went out with dial phones. It was never just, \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d but rather some arrogant platitude that came out as, \u201cDid you find out why you partnered with me to make me do what I did to get you so upset?\u201d It was \u2013 and still is \u2013 metaphysical psyhobabble that lacks the healing energies of love and compassion. It does, however, grow out of ego and arrogance run rampant.<\/p>\n Rather than discuss \u201cwhose fault is it,\u201d a more positive way of dealing with great upset is to do exactly what society may not want us to do:\u00a0 Have a little \u201creaction.\u201d We might just want to have a good scream, cry or beat a few pillows. \u201cJust git it out and git it all over yourself, honey,\u201d my grandma Esther used to say, \u201c\u2019cause it\u2019s better out than in.\u201d<\/p>\n Pretending we aren\u2019t royally ticked off when we are doesn\u2019t help the healing process. To do that would be like bandaging up a severely, dirty wound without first cleaning out the injury and applying medication. If our frustrations do not manifest in one way they most assuredly will <\/em>become apparent in some other way. Often that shows up as a physical or emotional ailment we may find hard to shake. Dealing with the blockage to our happiness, as opposed to pretending we aren\u2019t affected by it, will allow us to get beyond the upset and onto the healing we deserve.<\/p>\n Have you been living with a long-standing physical problem that doesn\u2019t seem to go away no matter what you do? Could it perhaps have started around the same time there was someone or something in your life that just made you want to scream? Perhaps you could consider giving into that \u2013 my favorite place is under water in the hot tub. If you decide to find a place, please inform others if they are around. Pets must decidedly not be in the area \u2013 no need to expose them to that! Once you get it all out I suspect you might find what\u2019s under the anger \u2013 there\u2019s always<\/em> something under the anger! This allows us to more effectively deal with the real emotional issue. In my experience that emotion is fear, but below that is pain or hurt. Next week I\u2019ll write more about how to deal with that kind of deep pain.<\/p>\n Until then, be willing to feel frustration and any other emotions should they arise, rather than burying your feelings. Then, find a safe, appropriate and preferable private, place to express that frustration. This is not about striking out at others, but going within our own consciousness to get at the root of our issue. Oh, and if you do decide to have a little scream of your own, take it from a trained singer:\u00a0 Lower your voice. There\u2019s fare less chance of damaging your vocal chords that way. And, as always, if you need a listening ear to help you work through it, I\u2019d be happy to assist!<\/p>\n In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,<\/p>\n Terry<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you ever have situations in your life when you feel like you\u2019ve done everything you can to produce the desired outcome, but the whole thing just falls apart\u2026or blows up\u2026or implodes?!? I believe we call that \u201cfrustration\u201d (among other things!). It can often be accompanied by screaming and fist pounding. Doesn\u2019t sound very \u201cspiritual,\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1674,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[265,92,263,266,267,24,264],"class_list":["post-769","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-anger","tag-fear","tag-healing","tag-hurt","tag-release","tag-science-of-mind","tag-terrydrewkaranen"],"yoast_head":"\n