{"id":624,"date":"2008-05-19T21:37:00","date_gmt":"2008-05-19T21:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/owenstrachan.wordpress.com\/2008\/05\/19\/if-jesus-spent-lots-of-time-with-unbelievers-why-do-most-of-us-hang-out-only-with-christians\/"},"modified":"2008-05-19T21:37:00","modified_gmt":"2008-05-19T21:37:00","slug":"if-jesus-spent-lots-of-time-with-unbelievers-why-do-most-of-us-hang-out-only-with-christians","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/thoughtlife\/2008\/05\/if-jesus-spent-lots-of-time-with-unbelievers-why-do-most-of-us-hang-out-only-with-christians\/","title":{"rendered":"If Jesus Spent Lots of Time with Unbelievers, Why Do Most of Us Hang Out Only with Christians?"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>Surfing <a href=\"http:\/\/takeyourvitaminz.blogspot.com\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Vitamin Z\u2019s excellent blog<\/a>, I came across a thoughtful post on evangelism by Joe Carter this morning that prompted some thinking on my part. Entitled rather provocatively <a href=\"http:\/\/www.evangelicaloutpost.com\/archives\/2008\/05\/how-do-you-love.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">\u201cHow Do You Love a Porn Star?\u201d<\/a>, the piece tackles the following simple but tough question: why don\u2019t many Christians regularly interact with the lost people who make up 99% of the surrounding populace?<\/p>\n<p>In asking this question, Carter offers a story of a Marine friend who was nice, fatherly, and happened to be involved in pornography. The piece chronicles Carter\u2019s struggle to handle his friendship with a man for whom he felt both revulsion and love. This section nicely encapsulates the central theme and problem of the post:<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-style:italic\">\u201cBecause of his peculiar vocation, Dave Connors may seem like an unrepresentative example. But we all have people like him in our lives\u2013acquaintances, coworkers, family members\u2013who have no intention of giving up their sinful ways. How do we make a friend of someone who chooses to remain an enemy of God?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-style:italic\">Normally this would be the point in the post where I would insert a homiletic bromide that would point the way toward a resolution. On this one, though, I not only don\u2019t have an answer; I don\u2019t have a clue. Somehow I\u2019ve managed to spend thirty years as a Christian without learning something so basic as how to truly love an impenitent sinner.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>I first Joe Carter for his candor. The simplicity and honesty of that last sentence blew over me like a spring breeze when I first read it. I\u2019ve been a Christian for three decades, Carter says, and have heard countless sermons about Christ\u2019s love for fallen mankind. Reading between the lines, he\u2019s telling fellow Christians that, like them, he has heard Sunday School lessons, read Christian books, and attended countless church gatherings that have instructed him (theoretically) in approaching lost people with the gospel. Yet with all of this teaching, he struggles mightily to take even the shortest gospel step: to get to know lost people and befriend them for the sake of Christian love and witness.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t have anything particularly profound to add to this comment. It seems to me to encapsulate the central struggle of many\u2013most, maybe\u2013Christians regarding evangelism. The new man inside of us loves the things of God, and detests naturally the things that are not of God. This is a biblical disposition and reality\u2013see Colossians 3:9-11, for example. Yet though this is a God-given disposition, we acquire a simultaneous impulse when regenerated and renewed by the Spirit. We acquire the impulse to spread and share the gospel with fellow sinners (Rom 10:9-17). So revulsion with sin sits alongside love for sinners as expressed in evangelism. We have these twin instincts, then. Knowing this, we note a third key biblical teaching. This one is a teaching handed down by way of example. Christ, who had no sin nature, did have the gospel imperative within Him, and He went to the lost\u2013five incredibly important words\u2013and hung out with them for the purpose of love-driven gospel witness. Here\u2019s what Mark 2:15-17 tells us about Christ and His example:<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"sup\" style=\"font-style:italic\"><\/span><span style=\"font-style:italic\">While Jesus was having dinner at Levi\u2019s house, many tax collectors and \u201csinners\u201d were eating with him and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. <\/span><span class=\"sup\" style=\"font-style:italic\"><\/span><span style=\"font-style:italic\">When the teachers of the law who were Pharisees saw him eating with the \u201csinners\u201d and tax collectors, they asked his disciples: \u201cWhy does he eat with tax collectors and \u2018sinners\u2019?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-style:italic\"><span class=\"sup\"><\/span>On hearing this, Jesus said to them, \u201cIt is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Christ\u2019s example is to be emulated by His disciples, a number that includes all born-again believers today. The above instance was not a strange evangelistic strategy, a guerilla campaign carried out by the spiritual Rambo in the enemy\u2019s lair. It was fundamentally what Christians are to do in carrying out the Great Commission.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we get into evangelical catfights about tracts, door-knocking, and gospel proclamation. Paul taught that wherever the gospel was proclaimed, he rejoiced: \u201cIn every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in that I rejoice.\u201d (Phil. 1:17) While we may find wisdom in pursuing certain evangelistic strategies over others, we should not\u2013definitively\u2013debase preaching of the gospel, no matter how much it conflicts with our cultural sensibilities. We may not adopt a certain method, but the preaching of the gospel is a strange and mysterious thing, and God uses all kinds of methods to bring people to Himself. With this all said, one model of evangelism that we can clearly derive from Scripture is that we are to go to unbelievers, befriend them, spend time with them, and witness to them. We are not only to go to them and witness to them. Jesus spent time with them. He got to know them. He talked with them. We should do the same. The Scripture is clear.<\/p>\n<p>We should not do so without carefulness, though. Christians who shrink from contact with unbelievers are getting something right. We are influenced by those we spend time with. If we are to hang out with lost people, then, we\u2019ve got to be very careful. We\u2019ve all seen Christians who hang out with lost people for the purpose of evangelism and end up drifting away from the faith and adopting the lifestyle of those around them. It is not silly or foolish to seek in a studious manner to avoid this result. Nothing less than our souls are at stake, after all! However, with care and principle and accountability and connection to our local church, we must venture forth from the community of faith to the community of unbelief. We\u2019ve got to get to know those around us, and that means joining bowling leagues, hanging out at the local coffee shop, inviting neighbors over for dinner, going to a library reading group, attending neighborhood association meetings, and so on. As we join in these activities, we do so looking to build up friendships, to listen and help others, and above all, to witness to the reality of Christ\u2019s death and resurrection to those who reject this life-saving work.<\/p>\n<p>I do not hold myself as an exemplar of the model of evangelism laid out by Christ in Mark 2. I don\u2019t have it all figured out. I would struggle just like Joe Carter to be a friend and witness to someone who is desperately lost. I have similar feelings to most Christians in my approach to sexual profligates, oft-drunk coeds, loopy hippys, materialistic bankers, narcissistic teens, snobby old people, homeless street-walkers, arrogant athletes, ideological demagogues, and hostile ruralites. Put simply, I don\u2019t really want to be around these people. I don\u2019t want to be in bad places where these type of people congregate. I don\u2019t want to go through the messy work of friendship. I want to be around nice Christian people in nice Christian environments where people encourage me, don\u2019t swear, don\u2019t have premarital sex, and don\u2019t look down on me. This means on a practical, day-to-day level that I spend most of my time around Christians in expressly Christian environments doing explicitly Christian things.<\/p>\n<p>This way of life is so far from Christ\u2019s example that one could almost say that it is an unChristian life. This lifestyle gets right, as mentioned above, the need to pursue holiness, and that is commendable. That\u2019s a big deal in the Bible! But it gets hugely wrong the need to take one\u2019s faith to the lost. The Christians of the Bible do anything but lock their faith in evangelical ghettos\u2013they crash the gates of the secular city. They make themselves unavoidable presences in the lives of unbelievers. They come together for rich, sweet, God-drenched fellowship and then they scatter to the winds to evangelize like crazy anyone they can (I\u2019ll just refer you to the entire book of Acts here). What do many of us do, though? The opposite. We take a look at the world, analyze its thought through rigorous analysis (a great thing to do, and a focus of this blog), identify its proponents and cultural effect, and then run the opposite direction, seeking out Christians as we go to join up with us and avoid the lost around us, save for scattered forays in which we briefly ambush the lost and then scamper away.<\/p>\n<p>Joe Carter\u2019s piece is great, because it calls us to realize that most of us are very far away from the biblical model of evangelism. We love the lost, but only in our prayers; we don\u2019t want to be around lost people, unlike our Savior; we allow a combination of fear and apathy to drive our lives, not a sense of God\u2019s magnificent love and transcendent power. We should change this situation. We should emerge from our ghettos. We should emulate the Savior. We should talk to fellow members of our local churches, strategize about evangelistic friendships, and then go out. We should construct churches by God\u2019s Spirit that are richly biblical and God-glorifying, but that do not make it intensely difficult for good Christian people to free up their calendar to evangelize the lost. We should train our people in biblical evangelism, saturate them in a sense of God\u2019s power, and fill them with love and concern that takes shape not in separation, but in witness\u2013clear, compassionate, gospel-driven, friend-making, witness.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Surfing Vitamin Z\u2019s excellent blog, I came across a thoughtful post on evangelism by Joe Carter this morning that prompted some thinking on my part. 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