Here is a video of his six minute speech on the issue<\/a>. I watched it first thing this morning and I sat in my water closet sobbing. It\u2019s the first time that I have ever seen a politician speak honestly about the monster of drug addiction in any way that spoke of authenticity. Someone who is in a position to actually do something about this plague.<\/p>\nI have avoided discussing Lamar Odom after his drug overdose for many reasons. Mostly because it hits close to home for me. Every day I wonder if this is the day that I get a call saying my ex-husband is dead and I have break the news to\u00a0my kids. I have prepared the way to do it\u00a0a million times, but really as the years go by the more that I wouldn\u2019t have to say much other than \u201cIt\u2019s about your dad\u201d for them to know exactly what I was saying. My kids have lived with an addict for a dad for their entire life. {and I was also a drunk for a lot of their lives as well.} They have known him to be sober for little spans of time, but for the most part he\u2019s been addicted to crack and meth since I miscarried our first baby together in 1997. He used drugs before then, but after that loss it became a full blown addiction and I spent the next 8 years blindsided by what a beast addiction is. I knew nothing about drugs and I tried everything that \u00a0I could to get him help or to get him to stop using but the only thing that I ended up doing was becoming codependent and that codependency ran on over into my valid Catholic marriage.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t just marry someone and have kids with them and then just stop giving a crap about them. There are so many things about Ben that I do miss, mostly seeing my kids enjoy time with their dad and getting to see Star Wars with him. Watching all the excitement of the new Stars Wars knowing that Ben won\u2019t be around to take them has really difficult. The memories of seeing them all excited about Star Wars come flooding back when I see it mentioned even though I do my best to ignore it. If Ben were here with them, they would have light sabers already.<\/p>\n
Drug addiction is a thief. It robs families of people they love, of security, of relationships, of time and of life. It sucks the life right out of everything that is beautiful and joyful. For those of us who don\u2019t have addictions, it robs us of our trust. Drug addicts are more than their addictions, that is something that I learned in Al-anon, they are people with dreams and gifts who have fallen into a black hole that is a real bitch to get out of. They aren\u2019t lazy bums who would just rather be high, they are people who have wounds that they don\u2019t know how to get healed in any other way. We need help to heal them and it takes more than just confession or even a relationship with Christ. I have that relationship and He sent me to a therapist and Al-anon. I had to learn coping skills and boundaries and allowing people to own their own shit instead of owning things that are not mine. It\u2019s not as simple as: hand it to Jesus. Sure, He wants us to hand Him our wounds, but then He searches out hearts and starts telling us what to do in order to love the way that He loves. That takes work and it\u2019s not easy. Jesus is not magic.<\/p>\n
Drugs are a plague in this country and it is only getting worse. Addiction breeds addiction, it\u2019s how the cycle works. It\u2019s an ugly cycle to get caught up in because no matter what, you can\u2019t really ever get out of it even if you are one of the lucky ones who heal from it, the scars are deep.<\/p>\n
Today, on the day that we pray for the dead, let us pray for those who are addicted because addiction is purgatory in some ways.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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