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Tonight I\u2019m speaking in NYC at\u00a0<\/a><\/em>First Things<\/a> at 6p<\/a>. \u00a0I hope to see some of you there or next week when I do a Theology on Tap in Boston on June 2nd<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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As part of the Patheos Book Club, I got to do a Q&A with Will Duquette<\/a> about\u00a0Arriving at Amen<\/em><\/a>. \u00a0Will\u2019s a great guy, a third order Dominican and the kind of person who titles his blog \u201cCry Woof! And let slip the dogs of whimsy\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Here are a few excerpts from our conversation:<\/p>\n

\u00a0Cry Woof:<\/i><\/b>\u00a0Your use of the examen started out narrow and eventually broadened: from looking just at what you actually did, you began to look outward at the network of people around you and began to consider what you might have done.\u00a0 (As Sun Microsystems used to say, the Network is the Computer.)\u00a0 Are there other areas of your life where prayer has led you from a focus on yourself to a focus on others?<\/i><\/p>\n

Leah:\u00a0<\/b>I think all prayer has involved this self-to-other movement for me, but particularly petitionary prayer.\u00a0 I had thought of it, prior to conversion, as just asking for life to be easier for me.\u00a0 So, if I was praying for someone else, it would be in the context of \u201cMake this person different so that they annoy me less.\u201d\u00a0 In practice, when I pray for someone else, I don\u2019t wind up asking for parts of them to be pared away, but for them to have the freedom and trust to be more joyfully themselves.\u00a0 And then I\u2019m challenged to think of what help I could offer or obstacles I might be creating to their task of being a vivid, delightful saint.<\/p>\n

Cry Woof:<\/i><\/b>\u00a0You write about using the Hail Mary as a way to break a sinful habit: if you started to pray it when thinking uncharitable thoughts, then for as long as it took you weren\u2019t thinking uncharitable thoughts.\u00a0 In Catholic terms, you were learning to use prayer to avoid a near occasion of sin, which is about as practical as it gets.\u00a0 Have you found other forms of prayer with such simple, practical benefits?<\/i><\/p>\n

Leah:\u00a0<\/b>The Divine Office, with its psalms assigned to particular hours, helps impose some order and limits on my day.\u00a0 It\u2019s easy for me to over-schedule, thinking I can just stay up later or eat very dark chocolate (I like it better than coffee) and manage to do everything by sheer force of effort.\u00a0 But the Divine Office is scheduled outside my control \u2013 I can\u2019t stay up late and thereby make up Morning Office if I miss it; it would make no sense to pray it at midnight!\u00a0 The Divine Office is a sign of contradiction to the way I try to live by default and helps remind me that I have to choose what gets my time and attention \u2013 I can\u2019t make more of either by willing it.<\/p>\n

Read the rest at Will\u2019s blog\u2026<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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