{"id":139,"date":"2011-05-14T01:35:00","date_gmt":"2011-05-14T01:35:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/2011\/05\/a-duty-to-disclose\/"},"modified":"2012-10-04T11:16:54","modified_gmt":"2012-10-04T15:16:54","slug":"a-duty-to-disclose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/2011\/05\/a-duty-to-disclose.html","title":{"rendered":"A Duty to Disclose?"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-qGHuX7mw8ZM\/Tc64qPXwTvI\/AAAAAAAABZk\/DfExq7xGkuc\/s1600\/Lightswitch_Getty_400.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-qGHuX7mw8ZM\/Tc64qPXwTvI\/AAAAAAAABZk\/DfExq7xGkuc\/s320\/Lightswitch_Getty_400.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\"><\/a><\/div>\n<p>I got into an argument in the comments section of Friendly Atheist\u2019s latest installment of <a href=\"http:\/\/friendlyatheist.com\/2011\/05\/12\/ask-richard-atheist-is-asked-to-be-a-godparent\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ask Richard<\/a> (an atheist advice column). \u00a0An atheist wrote because his Catholic aunt and uncle had asked him to be the godfather to their child. \u00a0The letter writer thought they didn\u2019t know he was an atheist and wanted to know if he had an obligation to disclose his beliefs. \u00a0Richard advised the author to ask the relatives about what role they wanted him to play as godfather, and explain his atheism if they did see the godparent role as a religious one.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/friendlyatheist.com\/2011\/05\/12\/ask-richard-atheist-is-asked-to-be-a-godparent\/#comment-731990\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">In the comments section<\/a>, I disagreed and said the letter writer should decline the offer, or, at the very least, say he would be happy to do it, but that he knew that having an atheist godparent was placing the family contrary to Church teaching and it was up to them if they wanted to break with the requirements. \u00a0I thought this was important, since many people treat this kind of ritual casually and don\u2019t research the prerequisites. \u00a0If they made an early mistake out of ignorance, they might be upset later when they found out they had disobeyed the Church.<\/p>\n<p>Richard disagreed with me about the duty to disclose:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Leah, it is the letter writer\u2019s responsibility to learn what his aunt and uncle expect of him according to <em>their own interpretation<\/em> of what a \u201cgodparent\u201d is, and then only based on that, to reveal things about himself to help them make an informed decision.<\/p>\n<p>Their own interpretation and how they arrive at it is their responsibility, not his. Their degree of adherence to their religion is their responsibility, not his. Their ignorance or savvy about their religion is their responsibility, not his. Not only are those things not his responsibility, they\u2019re none of his business.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>It\u2019s a lot easier for me to give advice than to follow it. \u00a0When I was in a somewhat\u00a0analogous\u00a0situation, I took a path closer to what Richard advises, and left the burden of investigation on the person of faith. \u00a0Looking back, I think I behaved uncharitably and shirked my duty. \u00a0Here\u2019s what happened:<\/p>\n<p>In high school, while in\u00a0Albuquerque\u00a0for a science fair, I was sharing my hotel room with an Orthodox Jewish girl. \u00a0Because she couldn\u2019t use the hotel\u2019s electronic keys on the Sabbath, she wanted us to leave our hotel door propped open from Friday night to Saturday night. \u00a0I objected, since I was worried my ipod would be stolen and offered to swipe the door open for her whenever she needed it. \u00a0Once I\u2019d established myself as a <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Shabbos_goy\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">shabbos goy<\/a>, she made frequent use of my services, having me follow her from room to room to turn lights on and off as needed.<\/p>\n<p>I started to get peeved with the terse way she was ordering me around and the way she kept interrupting my reading, so I comforted \u00a0myself with the thought that, according to her religion, I was technically a Jew, and thus she was committing a major sin in ordering a fellow Jew to break the Sabbath. \u00a0She never asked me if I was Jewish (despite my very very Jewish hair).<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not sure what how I should have handled the situation (offered my help but disclosed my long ago Jewish maternal grandmother? Advised her to talk to one of the goyishe chaperones? Offered to call the hotel concierge to ask for help?). \u00a0I don\u2019t think I was obligated to put our room at risk for her religious observance. \u00a0(I hadn\u2019t signed up to room with her).<\/p>\n<p>I took the least proactive, most resentful option, and that was wrong of me. \u00a0Rejoicing in spitefullness should have been my clue I was behaving badly, even if she didn\u2019t know I was being nasty and even if I didn\u2019t believe any <em>real<\/em>\u00a0harm came to her as the result of my actions.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><em>What do you think I <strong>should<\/strong> have done?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><\/em><em>What should the atheist godfather do?\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><\/em><em>What duty do atheists (or anyone outside a particular religious faith) have to protect people in that tradition from a harm that we don\u2019t believe exists?<\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/tracker\/4256452356987023523-5935864942027839578?l=www.unequally-yoked.com\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\"><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I got into an argument in the comments section of Friendly Atheist\u2019s latest installment of Ask Richard (an atheist advice column). \u00a0An atheist wrote because his Catholic aunt and uncle had asked him to be the godfather to their child. \u00a0The letter writer thought they didn\u2019t know he was an atheist and wanted to know [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":127,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-139","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-atheism","category-morality-in-practice"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - 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