{"id":339,"date":"2010-09-20T13:17:00","date_gmt":"2010-09-20T13:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/2010\/09\/what-should-i-do-at-churches-offering-open-communion\/"},"modified":"2012-08-26T01:22:14","modified_gmt":"2012-08-26T05:22:14","slug":"what-should-i-do-at-churches-offering-open-communion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/2010\/09\/what-should-i-do-at-churches-offering-open-communion.html","title":{"rendered":"What should I do at churches offering open communion?"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_b7Eh98KJ_qI\/TBa49rzToFI\/AAAAAAAAA_M\/vBYsIkEIGUY\/s1600\/joust.gif\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_b7Eh98KJ_qI\/TBa49rzToFI\/AAAAAAAAA_M\/vBYsIkEIGUY\/s320\/joust.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"320\" height=\"201\" border=\"0\"><\/a><\/div>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Over the summer, while I was working in DC, I decided to visit every church within walking distance of the place I was living, so I saw a wider variety of services that the Catholic Mass I attend every week with my boyfriend.\u00a0 This led to a whole new range of stresses for me.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever I enter a new religious ceremony, especially if unescorted by an initiate, I immediately become convinced that there is a giant blinking sign above my head that says ATHEIST, and that I will somehow manage to do something incredibly disrespectful out of ignorance.\u00a0 This problem was probably at its worst when I stared attending Mass with my boyfriend last January.\u00a0 I had never been to religious ceremonies before, and I still had a room-shaking cough from my bout with pneumonia, and I didn\u2019t even know which parts were most acceptable to time my coughs for.<\/p>\n<p>But in DC, I had a new problem.\u00a0 Once I was at non-Catholic ceremonies, I had to make a choice about open communion.\u00a0 Catholics restrict the Eucharist to people in communion with the Catholic Church whose souls are in a state of grace, so I\u2019m disqualified on a variety of levels, naturally.\u00a0 Even more ecumenical traditions often limit the Eucharist to baptized Christians, so, again, I\u2019m out.\u00a0 However, over the summer, I was in several churches where I was both allowed and encouraged to receive communion if I wanted.\u00a0 I declined every time, but I was torn, and I\u2019m still not sure what the appropriate choice would have been.<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_b7Eh98KJ_qI\/TJeW6pK_8mI\/AAAAAAAABDc\/5f8rnnHi6jY\/s1600\/Christmas_01_312_Holy_Communion_hands.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_b7Eh98KJ_qI\/TJeW6pK_8mI\/AAAAAAAABDc\/5f8rnnHi6jY\/s1600\/Christmas_01_312_Holy_Communion_hands.jpg\" alt=\"\" border=\"0\"><\/a><\/div>\n<p>I certainly wouldn\u2019t go up to the rail if my presence would be disruptive or disrespectful.\u00a0 I declined to participate because I didn\u2019t think I was capable of participating respectfully.\u00a0 Even if I were outwardly respectful, I\u2019d still be participating in a ceremony I didn\u2019t believe in.\u00a0 I\u2019d still be receiving a cracker, not the Host.\u00a0 It seems wrong for me to go through the motions when that\u2019s not how the ceremony is meant to be treated.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, [caveat: I have an extremely imperfect knowledge of the theology of the various Christianities that practice open communion] I am under the impression that some groups believe that Communion can have a salutary effect, even if it is taken by non-Christians.\u00a0 In that case, my decision to hang back is a choice to withdraw from the possible influence of their God and in conflict with whatever attitude of openness I was supposed to be cultivating by attending in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>After all, the church that offered me communion (even after I stated I was an unbaptized unbeliever) was Episcopal.\u00a0 The official position of the Episcopal church is closed communion, as far as I can tell.\u00a0 So this parish like some others in America had made a deliberate choice to open their communion.\u00a0 I was opting out of what is, from their perspective, a gift they wished to give me.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019d be very curious what any of you think is appropriate in these situations.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Does my unbelief (and implicit disrespect) trump their desire to offer me fellowship?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><\/em><em>Am I being too closed off by refusing to participate, since I don\u2019t believe it will do me any harm?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Does your answer to the dillema change if I am invited to come to the rail to \u2018receive a blessing\u2019 instead of partaking in the Eucharist?\u00a0 This is the practice of the campus ecumenical service.\u00a0 I opt out there as well.<\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/tracker\/4256452356987023523-3267499715544795892?l=www.unequally-yoked.com\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\"><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 Over the summer, while I was working in DC, I decided to visit every church within walking distance of the place I was living, so I saw a wider variety of services that the Catholic Mass I attend every week with my boyfriend.\u00a0 This led to a whole new range of stresses for me. 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