Watching The Odd Life of Timothy Green<\/em>, I kept being reminded of Ruby Sparks<\/em>, which only just came out a few weeks ago. In both movies, the lonely protagonist(s) write down their fantasies and dreams of a perfect girlfriend or a perfect child. And then, through magic that\u2019s left vague, the lover or child of your dreams appears out of thin air \u2014 and everything that was written down about him or her comes true, exactly as it was written.<\/p>\nThe difference between the two films is that Ruby Sparks<\/em> embraces the creepiness of its premise, and dives into the ways that having your fantasies come true could be problematic. (Even though we\u2019re apparently supposed to love and admire Calvin, the control-freak novelist in Ruby Sparks<\/em>.) But meanwhile, even though we see plenty of instances where Timothy\u2019s parents use Timothy for their selfish wish-fulfillment, the movie mostly gives them a pass. And the result is both saccharine and kind of dull.<\/p>\nIn fact, a lot of the tropes in Timothy Green<\/em> are sort of romantic comedy tropes, only here they\u2019ve been turned into stories about parenting. The world is full of hundreds of romcoms where the love interest is a mannequin or an imaginary lover brought to life, or the male lead has some totally implausible secret. But this is a somewhat rarer movie where, instead of a man finding his ideal woman through a contrived set of circumstances, it\u2019s about a married couple finding their ideal child. The whole notion of turning the romcom format into a movie about parenting is somewhat weird and ill-fitting.<\/p>\n\u2026Most of our fairytales and fantasies are wish fulfillment of one sort or another \u2014 something magical and improbable to set us free from all the dead ends we\u2019ve gotten ourselves stuck in. Either that, or there\u2019s an element of confronting some terrible darkness that\u2019s a metaphor for real-life evil. But what sort of fantasy is Timothy Green<\/em> really? It\u2019s not just a wish-fulfillment about a childless couple getting to have a child, because they don\u2019t get a baby, and a lot of the most \u201cmagical\u201d stuff in the film is about how Timothy somehow \u201cfixes\u201d all his parents\u2019 problems with their careers or families.<\/p>\nSo actually, it\u2019s hard not to suspect that the gnawing anxiety at the heart of The Odd Life of Timothy Green<\/em> isn\u2019t about loneliness or childlessness at all \u2014 rather, it\u2019s about feeling like a failure. Or fearing that you might not actually be special after all, you\u2019re just another ordinary grown-up: compromises, regrets and all. The wish-fulfillment comes from the notion that a magic child-saint could show up and prove to the world that you\u2019re somebody, after all. This is a fable for disappointed and insecure thirty-somethings everywhere.<\/p><\/blockquote>\nRead the whole thing<\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Apropos of the discussion of romances that end with a clinch, not a child, I thought I\u2019d share an excerpt from io9\u2019s review of\u00a0The Odd Life of Timothy Green. \u00a0This is the recently released film where two childless parents write down all the qualities they\u2019d like their kid to have, bury the list in the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":127,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[9],"class_list":["post-4177","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-reviewsrecommendations","tag-marriage"],"yoast_head":"\n
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