{"id":9427,"date":"2014-05-07T12:47:22","date_gmt":"2014-05-07T16:47:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/?p=9427"},"modified":"2014-05-09T00:44:53","modified_gmt":"2014-05-09T04:44:53","slug":"the-wrong-kind-of-resilience-pope-francis-bookclub","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/unequallyyoked\/2014\/05\/the-wrong-kind-of-resilience-pope-francis-bookclub.html","title":{"rendered":"The Wrong Kind of Resilience [Pope Francis Bookclub]"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

In 2014, I\u2019m reading and blogging through Pope Francis\/Cardinal Bergoglio\u2019s\u00a0<\/em>Open Mind, Faithful Heart: Reflections on Following Jesus<\/a>. \u00a0Every Monday, I\u2019ll be writing about the next meditation in the book, so you\u2019re welcome to\u00a0peruse them all<\/a>\u00a0and\/or read along.<\/em><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m pulling out a longer quote from\u00a0Open Mind, Faithful Heart<\/em><\/a> this week because I at least should probably hang this one over my bed or something.<\/p>\n

In our sinful human heart, as well as in our mysterious clinging to the realm that Paul calls \u201cthe law\u201d (cf. Rom 7:13), there exists a secret sector that we guard with special zeal. \u00a0It is our hidden shame; it is the wound with which we torture ourselves; it is the fear that makes us adhere to law\u2019s domain; it is our attachment to death as a way to ward off the life that threatens us; it is so many other things. \u00a0Each of us knows where in our hearts that zone is located, and often we find ourselves seeking refuge there. \u00a0We see that space as our private domain, and we believe that only we need see it. \u00a0Nevertheless, the vision we have of our inner heart is tenuous and myopic. \u00a0Only the brightness of Jesus\u2019 judgment can provide the light we need to correct the distortions of our vision and judgement\u2026 We are blind and by ourselves we are incapable of envisioning salvation. \u00a0By holding on to our impotence, we try to keep hidden that shadowy sector of our hearts; not wanting to be saved, we end up becoming ever blinder until our hearts are hopelessly hardened.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When I was in fifth grade or so, kids tended to bully me a little on the bus, and I didn\u2019t tell anyone. \u00a0I reasoned that, currently, their behavior was only making me<\/em> sad, but, that if I told someone else, like a parent or a teacher or a friend, that new person would\u00a0also<\/em> be sad, but probably wouldn\u2019t be able to do anything about it. \u00a0So, as I saw it, the chance to fix the problem wasn\u2019t on the table. \u00a0My only choices were to make other people unhappy or to keep the inconvenience private and, in my own way, put limits on the bullies\u2019 power to harm anyone by limiting their effects to me, alone.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not sure, in that specific circumstance, that I was wrong, but I certainly, by default, tend to hold my cards a little too close to the chest. \u00a0I don\u2019t like upsetting other people, especially because it means I suddenly have\u00a0two<\/em> problems: my original one, and the new problem of cheering up the friend who is more upset that the situation warrants. \u00a0After all, most of the people around me aren\u2019t (recovering) Stoics, so, if I tell them something bad happened to be or that I\u2019m having a strained relationship with a friend or that I\u2019ve hurt someone, they tend to have a strong, emotional reaction at the\u00a0injustice<\/em> of it all.<\/p>\n

In contrast, I\u2019m quick to try to figure out what practical action I can take, and, if none is available, to treat the problem as though it were as implacable and natural as a sudden downpour when I\u2019m without an umbrella. \u00a0I\u2019m\u00a0going<\/em> to get wet; I can only decide whether or not to be grumpy about it.<\/p>\n

But my friends have something right, when it doesn\u2019t occur to them to become placidly resigned to the world. \u00a0Some injustices may be outside\u00a0my<\/em> locus of control<\/a>, but, if I treat them as statically unresolvable, I\u2019m acting like Javert again. \u00a0Javert makes the world small, a place of law, not mercy<\/a>, because he knows how to live up to the law. \u00a0I can harden my heart by only longing for the things I can control and achieve by my own efforts. \u00a0If I treat everything I don\u2019t know how to fix and unfixable, I\u2019m lowering my eyes from the beatific vision, and losing sight of the star that should be guiding me.<\/p>\n

It can feel practical to just stop minding the things I can\u2019t address, but I need to remain sensitive, so I can be open to new graces and opportunities to change. \u00a0Instead of just accepting the little shadowy parts of myself and trying to figure out how to work around them, I have to expose them to light, so they can be healed, instead of compensated for.<\/p>\n

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Bonus: Reportedly, the musical\u00a0<\/em>First Date wasn\u2019t very good, but this song is pretty good, well performed, and on point for this post.<\/em><\/p>\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Uf6U9hv1qd4<\/a>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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