Throughout the years, we have seen how challenging it can be for people to truly understand their values. Most people want to start with \u201cTruth\u201d as a value, because they hate when other people lie to them. But those same people will admit they sometimes fudge the truth themselves if another value \u2013 say, harmony \u2013 is at stake.<\/p>\n
When we talk about values, we ask people to walk themselves through\u00a0The Five Whys. The idea is to ask \u201cwhy\u201d at least five times to get deeper and deeper into your reasoning\/motivation.<\/p>\n
As we\u2019ve seen people journey through The Five Whys, we have started to notice two values that are, in some way or another, prevalent in every human life and organization.<\/p>\n
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Safety<\/strong><\/h4>\nThe first universal value is safety. We need a baseline of security in order to accomplish anything with our lives. A lot of people get stuck in the rabbit hole of wealth, social media, and power dynamics because they want to feel safe. We seek comfort as a mechanism for feeling secure. We try to control our circumstances in order to eliminate exposure to risk.<\/p>\n
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Much of what we do is to try to establish, reinforce, or fix this foundation of safety.<\/p>\n
If you are in a relationship or a business, you have probably experienced a lot of conflict when two separate parties are each trying to feel as safe as possible. We want our way. We want people to like us. We need care and affirmation. We need to belong. All of this boils down to a base value for security and every human on the planet feels this to one degree or another.
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Purpose<\/strong><\/p>\nThe other, and in my mind much more significant, universal value is purpose. We talk about our \u201cplace in the world\u201d, \u201cthe meaning of life\u201d, etc. If our foundation is security, the structure we want to build on top of it is purpose.<\/p>\n
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We all want to do something that matters. We want to be a part of something significant. We want to be remembered and acknowledged and valued.<\/p>\n
Purpose is the quintessential human value.<\/p>\n
But purpose is a bit of an enigma. It seems as though the best we can do is participate in it. We never feel as though we have got it perfectly figured out\/executed. Again, we slip into power, control, and comfort in an attempt to master our need for purpose and to bend everyone to our will.<\/p>\n
Once we understand that purpose is our main driver, we can structure our lives accordingly. We need to start with purpose, be\u00a0intentional about it.\u00a0We need to figure out how to communicate purposes within our relationships and organizations \u2013 even within our own self.<\/p>\n
Purpose is the thing you long for. All roads lead to this ultimate value. The good news is you can find it. The bad news is it may not look like what you imagine. But the first step is acknowledging that we are people hungry for purpose, desperate for meaning.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
For the last three years, Kylie and I have been traveling the world, training groups on how to be great organizations. We always start with a conversation about\u00a0values. Values help determine your mission. They are the heart behind your\u00a0emotions. Values are the great motivator for people and the lives they long to lead. Throughout the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3111,"featured_media":7541,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1126],"tags":[14,687,133,1791,13],"class_list":["post-7536","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-values","tag-purpose","tag-safety","tag-truth","tag-universal","tag-values"],"yoast_head":"\n
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The other, and in my mind much more significant, universal value is purpose. We talk about our \u201cplace in the world\u201d, \u201cthe meaning of life\u201d, etc. If our foundation is security, the structure we want to build on top of it is purpose.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
We all want to do something that matters. We want to be a part of something significant. We want to be remembered and acknowledged and valued.<\/p>\n
Purpose is the quintessential human value.<\/p>\n
But purpose is a bit of an enigma. It seems as though the best we can do is participate in it. We never feel as though we have got it perfectly figured out\/executed. Again, we slip into power, control, and comfort in an attempt to master our need for purpose and to bend everyone to our will.<\/p>\n
Once we understand that purpose is our main driver, we can structure our lives accordingly. We need to start with purpose, be\u00a0intentional about it.\u00a0We need to figure out how to communicate purposes within our relationships and organizations \u2013 even within our own self.<\/p>\n
Purpose is the thing you long for. All roads lead to this ultimate value. The good news is you can find it. The bad news is it may not look like what you imagine. But the first step is acknowledging that we are people hungry for purpose, desperate for meaning.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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