Kaila (my daughter) before her second recital<\/figcaption><\/figure>I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common Consent. My son, by the way, did graduate from high school. He is doing well and continues to surprise us by his wisdom. <\/p>\nSo my son will not pass Sports Medicine this term. Alas. We worked so hard. And I do mean WE. I taught myself the material so I could tutor him. But the class is made for a different sort of student than my son is. The big news is that I\u2019m saying, \u201cSo what?\u201d Sometimes, his grades depressed me. Now, I\u2019m seeing him take responsibility and, even though we failed this particular class, I rather like the kid. Of course, there\u2019s more to it than that. Over the past while, I have been amazed at the depth of questions he\u2019s asked. Is it possible that my long-haired, long-sleeping son might actually THINK? That we might someday hold conversation about abstract and truly important things? That we might consider possibilities and impossibilities? That I might even be able to tell him how I feel about the Savior without his saying, \u201cMom, it really bugs me when you cry.\u201d<\/p>\n
I remember waiting for my oldest daughter while she broke curfew. I\u2019d simply sit in my armchair and stare at the door. When she finally entered, I\u2019d give her a look (you know what I mean), say, \u201cGood night,\u201d and go to bed. It was enough. She\u2019d be consumed with guilt. My intent all along, of course.<\/p>\n
But there came that day when I got to help her put on her wedding dress, button each button, and then help her put on her temple robes for the ceremony. At last I was able to tell her what the endowment meant to me, and not feel constrained. We were in the temple, after all. At the moment of her marriage, I did not flash back to the times I let her throw tantrums on the University Mall hallway rather than acquiesce to her newest demands, nor those curfew violations, nor to those awful moments when she slammed her head on the diving board during diving competitions. My response to my daughter was fully in the present: \u201cHere you are. I had never dreamed you would be so beautiful.\u201d
\n<\/p>\n
I had a similar reaction to her first vocal recital a few years later. She had never sung at home, but was majoring in vocal performance. I had no idea how good she was. When she began her first song, I burst into quiet tears. Again, it was a \u201cThis is YOU!\u201d moment. C.S. Lewis might call it being \u201csurprised by joy.\u201d Can it be possible that YOU can do this? That you can BE this?<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know what waits around the bend, but I anticipate that there will be many more moments of seeing glory in my own children, and wondering how I ever got so lucky\u2013or how I didn\u2019t see it sooner. I think I will forget Sports Medicine rather easily. (Already, I can\u2019t remember the difference between vulgus and varus force.) I can pretty much guarantee that this particular son will not be a doctor. Will he be a missionary? On many Wednesdays, I get to see radiant, brand new missionaries in their brand new suits or dresses. I always imagine their mothers taking them to a good store and purchasing the clothes they\u2019ll wear over the next two years. (Fathers tend not to do that, do they?) I can\u2019t imagine any complaining about the price of the suits. I can only imagine the mother marveling at who her son or daughter is becoming.<\/p>\n
Of course, neither mother nor missionary really knows how hard the mission will be, how many days will feel like one more failure. But there will be miraculous moments, sprigs of promise, sacred silences.<\/p>\n
Thus far, whenever I\u2019ve blogged optimistically about missionary work, someone (usually more than one) has let me know how hard a mission is, and how different from the ideal. Yes, I acknowledge it. And marriage can be a XXXXX (rhymes with pitch). Child rearing\u2013oh, not for the faint hearted at all.<\/p>\n
And yet\u2026<\/p>\n
This is what I told one of my missionaries: \u201cSublime experiences are usually unexpected and often overwhelming. They are the peaks on an often difficult path\u2013a path so hard that at times, you wonder if you can take another step. As I\u2019ve seen temple sealings, I\u2019ve thought about how short the ceremony is. All of that effort to get there, and the words themselves take about two minutes. But for those two minutes, we\u2019re elevated into a sacred realm, and we know we\u2019re witnessing something worth everything\u2013and more\u2013which we\u2019ve given be there, to be a part of it.\u201d<\/p>\n
My son will graduate from high school. His GPA won\u2019t be stellar. But I know that there will be moments in our future when I will look at him and stand in awe. And he might even acknowledge that I\u2019m okay, for a mom.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common Consent. My son, by the way, did graduate from high school. He is doing well and continues to surprise us by his wisdom. So my son will not pass […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1301,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-307","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n
September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"The Welcome Table\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2013-09-12T16:17:33+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2013-09-12T16:20:50+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"http:\/\/wp.patheos.com.s3.amazonaws.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/files\/2013\/09\/kaila.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Margaret Blair Young\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Margaret Blair Young\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/\",\"name\":\"September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2013-09-12T16:17:33+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2013-09-12T16:20:50+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/d37d1777600358796768346d57ed0d47\"},\"description\":\"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"September 12–after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/\",\"name\":\"The Welcome Table\",\"description\":\"Love Bade Me Welcome\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/d37d1777600358796768346d57ed0d47\",\"name\":\"Margaret Blair Young\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6a77e29fd335afdccad6abc2851d372e?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6a77e29fd335afdccad6abc2851d372e?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Margaret Blair Young\"},\"description\":\"Margaret Blair Young taught literature and creative writing at Brigham Young University from 1984-2018. From 1998-2015,, she specialized in the history of blacks in the west, particularly black Mormons. She has written six novels and two short story collections, but has lately become interested in filmmaking in the DR-Congo, with the objective of helping Congolese people establish their cinema industry. She works with Tshoper Kabambi and Rufin Kalala in these ongoing endeavors.\",\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/congorising.org\",\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Margaret_Blair_Young\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/author\/welcometable\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U","description":"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U","og_description":"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common","og_url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/","og_site_name":"The Welcome Table","article_published_time":"2013-09-12T16:17:33+00:00","article_modified_time":"2013-09-12T16:20:50+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"http:\/\/wp.patheos.com.s3.amazonaws.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/files\/2013\/09\/kaila.jpg"}],"author":"Margaret Blair Young","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Margaret Blair Young","Est. reading time":"4 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/","name":"September 12--after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#website"},"datePublished":"2013-09-12T16:17:33+00:00","dateModified":"2013-09-12T16:20:50+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/d37d1777600358796768346d57ed0d47"},"description":"I am re-posting something I wrote several years ago, because of the wonderful news we got yesterday, included in the title. Previously posted in By Common","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/2013\/09\/september-12-after-my-daughter-was-cast-as-annina-in-la-traviata-at-indiana-u\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"September 12–after my daughter was cast as Annina in La Traviata at Indiana U"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/","name":"The Welcome Table","description":"Love Bade Me Welcome","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/d37d1777600358796768346d57ed0d47","name":"Margaret Blair Young","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6a77e29fd335afdccad6abc2851d372e?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/6a77e29fd335afdccad6abc2851d372e?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Margaret Blair Young"},"description":"Margaret Blair Young taught literature and creative writing at Brigham Young University from 1984-2018. From 1998-2015,, she specialized in the history of blacks in the west, particularly black Mormons. She has written six novels and two short story collections, but has lately become interested in filmmaking in the DR-Congo, with the objective of helping Congolese people establish their cinema industry. She works with Tshoper Kabambi and Rufin Kalala in these ongoing endeavors.","sameAs":["https:\/\/congorising.org","https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Margaret_Blair_Young"],"url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/author\/welcometable\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/307","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1301"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=307"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/307\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=307"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=307"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/welcometable\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=307"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/313\/2013\/09\/kaila.jpg\" "\\"kaila\\"")
<\/a>