{"id":319,"date":"2013-02-15T06:00:04","date_gmt":"2013-02-15T11:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/whitehindu\/?p=319"},"modified":"2015-03-13T22:38:13","modified_gmt":"2015-03-14T02:38:13","slug":"were-having-a-wedding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/whitehindu\/2013\/02\/were-having-a-wedding\/","title":{"rendered":"We’re Having a Wedding!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

So yeah, Valentine\u2019s Day in the west is not all about rape and semi-nude dancing as some seem to believe. For me it has always been about committed partners\u00a0acknowledging\u00a0the love they have for one another. That aesthetic was perfectly matched last night when my boyfriend proposed over dinner.<\/p>\n

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I knew it was going to happen because we went together to pick out the ring a couple of weeks earlier. I\u2019m so touched that he still wanted to do a public proposal and the waiter who was taking this picture did not see it coming! He was quite startled. I got to have applause from the people around and the manager sent over some drinks (she managed to bring me a virgin drink that I actually didn\u2019t hate, when usually all I can drink is water).<\/p>\n

We threw caution to the wind that night and ate completely off diet! This is the same restaurant that we went to for Valentine\u2019s day last year and they have the most amazing poutine. Weight watchers points through the roof, but so, so yummy. (Knowing this was coming, and wanting to look good for the pictures, I\u2019ve been working crazy hard on losing weight. I\u2019ve been at the gym just about every day for the last two weeks, been doing an exercise DVD every other day, and going to my weight watchers meetings. It made no difference. I\u2019m just as heavy today as I was three weeks ago. Sigh. I need it to start working soon so I can order my wedding dress).<\/p>\n

There were two adorable little kids at the table next to ours and they were so excited. One of them was not even a year old and he really enjoyed clapping with everyone. Every time I laughed he turned around and looked at me with his huge, beautiful baby eyes. The three year old waved hello and came over to ask us questions and to tell us about the cake that he had just eaten. The parents were a little\u00a0embarrassed, but we thought it was great.<\/p>\n

I was pretty exhausted from all the emotions of the day, so we packed up and went home and updated Facebook. We spent the next few hours enjoying all the excitement the news generated there!<\/p>\n

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My life has become better and better with every passing day and month. It\u2019s amazing how the insecurities and worries of my twenties melted away and I emerged as a confident, content, and deeply happy person as I entered my thirties. Lately my happiness has exploded into joy bigger than anything I have ever known. Thanks to my dear friend, Jeramy (also my ex, the man I was dating when I first started blogging), I met my soul mate.<\/p>\n

I have no doubt that the man who asked for my hand in marriage is the man that I was meant to be with. It took me a while to be ready for this wonderful relationship. I had a lot of learning and growing to do. But once I met Brad, it didn\u2019t take long to realize that we were perfect for each other.<\/p>\n

I know some people are\u00a0surprised\u00a0(and maybe even disappointed) that I am not marrying an Indian man and I\u2019m not even marrying a Hindu man!<\/p>\n

The fact is, life and the universe have a way of surprising you. I could not have anticipated that the right man for me would not practice the same religion. Despite what a central place my spirituality has in my life, I still am absolutely certain that this is the man for me. I feel that the Gods have brought us together for a purpose and that we have spent previous lives together and will spend many more together. (I am so certain of this that I am already sure that I don\u2019t want any vows saying anything like \u201cUntil death do us part\u201d).<\/p>\n

He is a practicing Buddhist<\/a> and has studied Eastern religion extensively. He definitely understands my religion and what it means to me. \u00a0He also understands all of my other sides, of which there are many!<\/p>\n

Like plenty of other women, I\u2019ve been thinking about my wedding for many years. I\u2019ve had some ideas of what I wanted to do to have a Hindu wedding that is still a western event.<\/p>\n

Brad, as it turns out, comes with a few ideas of his own!<\/p>\n

We are both half Scottish and so we have been discussing how to bring together Indian and Scottish elements to create a multicultural wedding. I think my family might be surprised by the Indian elements, but I am a Hindu and I want a Hindu-based wedding!<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what I know for sure: I\u2019ll be wearing a red lengha and he\u2019ll be wearing a kilt! We\u2019ll have bagpipe music for the ceremony and a mandap decorated in marigolds.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because I\u2019m a huge fan of wedding TV shows, I thought I\u2019d document the progress of planning with little videos for fun.<\/p>\n

Now, a Hindu wedding is usually a very grand event. It tends to be much bigger than western weddings with 300-500 guests not being unusual. They can last three to seven days with many different events and outfits. But since I am forging my own path in religion and in life, I want the wedding to be more like Brad and I are: down to earth, laid back, and geeky.<\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll be posting videos but don\u2019t be expecting anything hugely lavish! I think it will be very interesting to see how a white Hindu wedding will look. Though I know it happens, I have yet to see a Hindu wedding where neither bride nor groom is ethnically South East Asian!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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