A New York mother is suing her former nanny for feeding her daughter formula. Lynn Wojton says she wanted to exclusively breastfeed her daughter. However, her nanny “force-fed” her newborn formula in the middle of the night instead of waking her to breastfeed.
According to the New York Post, the tragic tale began last fall. In September, Lynn Wojton gave birth to a healthy baby girl. After spending two days in the hospital, the new mother brought her baby home. According to the lawsuit filed in Manhattan Supreme Court, the mother planned to exclusively breastfeed her child.
Wojton said she hired Marcia Chase-Marshall to help her with the care of her baby. For the first two nights, Chase-Marshall woke up Wojton to breastfeed her daughter. The nanny slept in the same room with the new mother and infant, and she was supposed to assist the Wojton with breastfeeding.
However, on the third night, Wojton alleges that her nanny failed to wake her up. Instead of waking her up, Chase-Marshall snuck formula into the room to feed the child. The nanny insisted she was tired and did not want to bother the sleeping mother. Additionally, she said that helping the mother breastfeed would have taken longer than giving the baby a bottle.
The next morning Wojton realized that her nanny didn’t wake her up to feed the baby. She approached Chase-Marshall and asked why she allowed her to sleep all night. During the confrontation, the nanny confessed that she fed the baby formula rather than waking her up.
Apparently, the news sent Wojton into a tizzy and she told the New York Post that she cried for an hour. Wojton said that she did not want her daughter fed formula.
After the two women finished their conversation, the nanny left the home. According to the court records, Chase-Marshall received $4,200 for the three nights of work.
In the suit, Wojton claims that her nanny used formula because she believed formula the was better for the baby. However, the former caregiver said that she used the formula because it was less work than waking up her client.
Wojton alleges the formula feeding was the “last straw” in a tenuous relationship with Chase-Marshall. The two women also disagreed about bathing and diaper changing. Wojton said,
“If I didn’t change the diaper the way she thought was best, she would criticize me the whole time. It makes you second-guess yourself. You’re a new mother and this is all very new.”
Wojton’s Lawyer Brett Gallaway said, “Lynn obviously didn’t want to cross a stranger who had direct access to her baby, to her home and belongings at such an important and potentially volatile time.”
So what is the new mother looking for out of the lawsuit?
Fear not, the new mother has a new nanny now and she adheres to her “no formula” policy. Wojton says her daughter is now six months old and doing great.
There are so many questions I have about this story. As a new mother, Wojton should have been capable of waking herself to feed the baby. Relying on staff to wake her isn’t indicative of a woman that is ready to be a parent. Even if she was extremely exhausted, she should have heard her baby crying.
While the staff absolutely was in the wrong for feeding the baby formula against the mother’s wishes, I hardly think that constitutes damages of $10,000.00. The lawsuit has all the smells of a rich and entitled woman not wanting to take responsibility for her child.
Mothers around the world wake up at all hours to feed their babies without the luxury of assistance from staff. Even if Wojton can afford to pay the nanny, she is the one ultimately responsible for her daughter.
Can you really blame the nanny for giving the baby formula in the middle of the night?
I don’t blame her at all.
Hopefully, a judge will see the lawsuit has no merit and the case is dismissed.
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