Holidays are coming up rather quickly.\u00a0 The wonderful thing about holidays is the practice ground it gives you to have and sense your self-control.<\/p>\n
The self control I am talking about has nothing to do with will, work, or trying. Can you simply be present with family without getting caught in the drama, story, or chaos? And if you do, can you be aware in that space of the feelings that have\u00a0 caught you, it feels like a hook. You feel angry, blame comes up, complaining, gossip, judging, and participating in lower vibrations.\u00a0 The wonderful thing about practicing the presence is that it is a practice.\u00a0 So you can always start over again.\u00a0 You become aware of an upset with a family member, and aware that you are now arguing with them, and that is it. Now you are aware of it all.\u00a0 Then see for yourself what happens from there.\u00a0 By becoming aware of the space you are in, can you then become aware of the words coming out of your mouth.\u00a0 Can you?<\/p>\n
Can you stop yourself from leaving the conversation in anger and going to eat, drink, smoke, gossip, and all the rest of it? Self control is awareness of what is, and allowing all to unfold as it is. Your only responsibility is on your actions, how you use the word, and that is it. You are not there to convert, change, fix, judge, explain yourself, or make someone wrong, or lower than you. Doesn\u2019t that feel peaceful.\u00a0 The only thing you have is yourself to be accountable for.\u00a0\u00a0 And your only eraser is forgiveness and love.\u00a0 FOR-GIVE, that person is giving you a chance to learn what hooks you. When you are aware of it, that is the gift. Nothing to change, fix, or do ten steps to recovery. Just be aware of what is happening within you and outside.\u00a0 And if you get upset, be with it, then apologize and start over.\u00a0 Easy breezy\u2026now you try it. Remember it is only practice, there is no right or wrong in it. Because there no right and wrong now.<\/p>\n
I like this line from LET IT BE, \u201cMother Mary comes to me and says, \u201cLet it be.\u201d Can you let life be? It sounds simple right? Well that can be the challenge. We take the simple and make it a challenge.\u00a0 Carry this practice with you, every where you go. And remember that love, peace, joy, laughter, humor, kindness, etc\u2026are FREE.\u00a0 What a relief \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
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