The parent of an 11-year-old boy is considering legal action against Morning Star Friends Church in Ohio as well as the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. Her autistic son’s “big brother”, along with the church, baptized her son without her permission. The baptism was done by full submersion and has apparently left her son with nightmares:
She says he was panicked and now has nightmares since his big brother forced him to get baptized and did it without her permission.
“They held my son under water. It wasn’t like they sprinkled water on his head, it was like full immersion. He kicked, he screamed and told them beforehand that he was afraid. Every day since then he’s had nightmares, the same recurring dream, about being baptized over and over like he’s drowning,” says Defibaugh.
Now she wants assault and child endangering charges filed against the Morning Star Friends Church in Chardon, the pastor, the big brother and the Big Brothers Big Sisters organization itself.
“To be honest, if I held you underwater and you didn’t understand, wouldn’t you consider that assault? Not only that, but endangering a child who really doesn’t understand what was going on,” said Defibaugh.
“Sometimes people’s values conflict. They just conflict,” said Tim Kehres. He’s the executive director of Big Brothers Big Sisters of Lake, Geauga and Ashtabula counties.
He says there is training in place for “”respecting boundaries.”
“We understand we have to respect peoples’ different values and have to address that,” said Kehres.
Defibaugh says it is wrong to “force or manipulate a minor into anything.”
“It makes me sad that somebody who I believe was becoming a part of our family took full advantage of it. I want this to change. It should be illegal to have a child baptized without parents’ permission. Period,” said Defibaugh.
Calls to both the Big Brother mentor and to the pastor at Morning Star Friends Church were not returned.
The officer filing the police report writes “I advised her, since her son did not suffer from any physical injury and that there was no criminal intent to harm her son, that this most likely was a civil issue.”
I think she has a legit gripe. It does sound like a church taking advantage of a child’s disability. Of course, to them it’s just looking out for his eternal soul. Leave it to a church to white wash ethics and to find a way to pat themselves on the back for abuse.