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<\/a>This is not our laundry room. Our most unlovely laundry room is in our cellar.\nOf all the aspects of being a mother that I cherish, laundry isn\u2019t one of them. My patient, loving husband washes and dries nearly all the family laundry. The laundry I then fold makes it into baskets that I carry to the first-floor family room, or, if I am feeling particularly ambitious, to the second-floor hallway. We generally pull clean clothes from the piles in the baskets.\u00a0Obviously, I am a lazy laundress. But over this Mother\u2019s Day weekend, \u00a0reading St. Francis de Sales gave me a burst of inspiration. I am embarrassed by my lazy laundering. God has blessed me with a husband and sons, and, in addition to loving them, which I do with all my heart, my job is to take care of them. As tedious as laundry is, I know I should do it. Nothing says love<\/i> like freshly washed and folded clothes in a dresser drawer.\u00a0Many devout Catholic Christian women cite Titus 2 for their model of motherhood. So I checked it out. No surprise: I came up short.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what Titus says:\u00a0\u201cOlder women<\/a> (<\/i>Are they talking about me? I am 47.) should be reverent in their behavior <\/i>(yes), not slanderers <\/i>(working on that), not addicted to drink <\/i>(check),\u00a0 teaching what is good <\/i>(check), so that they may train younger women to love their husbands and children <\/i>(I am not sure what kind of trainer I would be, but I do love my husband and children), to be self-controlled <\/i>(my figure suggests otherwise), chaste, <\/i>(always), good homemakers <\/i>(ouch), under the control of their husbands <\/i>(ummm), so that the word of God may not be discredited.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Boy, oh boy. I need an intervention. And who better to turn to than St. Francis de Sales<\/a>, the son of French aristocrats who taught that everyone, regardless of job or position, can lead a devout life? This 16th-century Doctor of the Church detailed this view in his work Introduction to the Devout Life<\/i>, which I pulled off the YIM Catholic bookshelf <\/a>and devoured this weekend.<\/p>\n St. Francis de Sales compares each of our vocations to a precious stone. When cast in the honey of devotion, each stone becomes more brilliant \u201ceach one according to its colour.\u201d<\/i> And \u201call persons become more acceptable in their vocation when they join devotion to it.\u201d <\/i>It occurred to me that one of the things I loathe about laundry is that, unlike cooking or even cleaning, I don\u2019t feel I can put my stamp of individuality on it. In other words, I am so vain that I struggle to offer this gift to my family because it doesn\u2019t please me enough to do it. What is the answer?<\/p>\n \u201cIn all your affairs rely wholly on the providence of God, through which alone any of your undertakings can succeed; labor, nevertheless, quietly on your part to cooperate with it\u2026.Do as the little children do; little children who with one hand hold fast by their father and with the other gather strawberries or blackberries along the hedges; do you while gathering and managing the goods of this world with one hand with the other always hold fast the hand of your heavenly Father, turning to Him from time to time to see if your actions or occupations are pleasing to Him; but take heed, above all things, that you never let go of his Hand.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n This led me to consider that I should see this otherwise tedious time amid the laundry as an opportunity for prayer. Once again, St. Francis de Sales provides instruction.\u00a0First, he says, we have to pray in the presence of God. How do we do this? St. Francis de Sales offers four suggestions.<\/p><\/div>\n 1. Realize that God is in your heart. He is not \u201cout there;\u201d He called us into being. He is in our very being.<\/p>\n 2. Imagine how God\u00a0beholds us from above. Because He does. He particularly beholds us when we are praying. How comforting to consider that God\u2019s loving gaze is on us throughout the day.<\/p>\n 3. Understand that Jesus Christ is at hand, right by our side, just as a friend would be.<\/p>\n And this suggestion of St. Francis de Sales I place last because I want to write it on my heart\u2014<\/p>\n This is not our laundry room. Our most unlovely laundry room is in our cellar. Of all the aspects of being a mother that I cherish, laundry isn\u2019t one of them. My patient, loving husband washes and dries nearly all the family laundry. The laundry I then fold makes it into baskets that I carry […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":144,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1239","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n
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Something about laundry slays me. It never ends, does it? My family keeps wearing clothes and needing clean clothes. Even though our family is small, the laundry never ever really ends. Five years ago, in anticipation of a visit by the Dalai Lama to Rutgers University<\/a>, a group of Tibetan monks spent four days at the Zimmerli Art Museum, constructing a beautiful mandala. Then,\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>shortly after completing the mandala they<\/span><\/span><\/i>\u00a0destroyed it in a public ceremony designed to be \u201ca metaphor of life\u2019s fleeting quality.\u201d <\/span>My friend Jane, who is raising four daughters, shook her head when I told her about the ceremony. She told me anyone who wants to understand the transience of life should do laundry. Here is a video of another such mandala-destruction ceremony. This is how I feel when I consider how quickly clean clothes become dirty laundry.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=7BCbCh0uBRs<\/a>\n