{"id":1675,"date":"2009-10-23T09:47:00","date_gmt":"2009-10-23T09:47:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/yimcatholic\/2009\/10\/because-i-can%e2%80%99t-do-it-alone\/"},"modified":"2017-01-24T19:18:49","modified_gmt":"2017-01-25T00:18:49","slug":"because-i-cant-do-it-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/yimcatholic\/2009\/10\/because-i-cant-do-it-alone.html","title":{"rendered":"Because I Can\u2019t Do It Alone"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>I have been talking with a dear friend who is in conflict about something. Like someone with an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other, he can\u2019t understand why the conflict persists. Late into a recent night, I finally said, \u201cBut man, you can\u2019t do it alone!\u201d And there it was: another reason why I am Catholic.<br><a name=\"more\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><br>As the liturgy does so often, the readings for today spoke directly to this question in my heart. Paul writes to the Romans: \u201cThe willing is ready at hand, but doing the good is not. For I do not do the good I want, but I do the evil I do not want.\u201d And a bit further on: \u201cMiserable one that I am! Who will deliver me from this mortal body? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>This is why we need the Church in its broadest meaning: the Holy Spirit working through the sacraments, the priesthood which administers the sacraments as vicars of Christ, and especially (it seems to me this morning) the fellowship of our fellow Catholics who share with us in the sacraments. Let\u2019s face it: we \u201cmiserable\u201d sinners need all the help we can get!<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_dmDaLWNETzg\/SuGsryj90oI\/AAAAAAAAAaw\/eSy3NSij_0c\/s1600-h\/IMG_0132.JPG\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><img decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"https:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_dmDaLWNETzg\/SuGsryj90oI\/AAAAAAAAAaw\/eSy3NSij_0c\/s320\/IMG_0132.JPG\"><\/a><\/div>\n<p>I thought of this especially this morning after mass, when I interviewed brothers Tony, John, and Frank Pietrini (left to right) for the parish newsletter. They are three out of ten offspring of an Italian-American couple who settled in Beverly over eighty years ago. They were raised on the third floor of a three-family house a couple blocks from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.stmarystar.org\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">St. Mary\u2019s Star of the Sea Church<\/a>. All seven surviving Pietrini children and their families still lived within a mile of the church until just a year ago, when one sister moved fifteen miles away to be closer to her children. <\/p>\n<p>This is not an \u201cauthorized\u201d biography of the Pietrini brothers and I won\u2019t go into more detail. (You\u2019ll have to read the parish newsletter.) I will say that Tony, John, and Frank are three of the happiest-looking seventy- and eighty-year-old men you\u2019re ever likely to meet, and when I began showing up at morning mass two years ago, they were among the first to welcome me. I feel about them the way I feel about <a href=\"http:\/\/yimcatholic.blogspot.com\/2009\/09\/because-of-frank-and-carrie.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Frank Kwiatkowski<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/yimcatholic.blogspot.com\/2009\/08\/catholics-in-front-of-me.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Frank Gaudenzi<\/a>: I want to be <i>just like that<\/i> when I\u2019m a little older.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know all the details, but I\u2019m quite sure that the Pietrinis have essentially configured their lives to and around the Catholic Church. They are unanimously and unequivocally loyal to the church and its many pastors through the years. <a href=\"http:\/\/yimcatholic.blogspot.com\/2009\/09\/thanks-to-father-barnes-i.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Father Barnes <\/a>is a very good priest, they agree, but they were also fond of Monsignor Deagan and Fathers Darcy, Shields, McNamara, Lahey, Johnson, Hughes, et al. You won\u2019t hear a critical word pass their lips when they talk of the priesthood.\u00a0 <\/p>\n<p>That kind of loyalty, that kind of obedience to the church and its leaders, is something I am quite comfortable with. I understand the Protestant notion of <i>sola scriptura\u2014<\/i>Scripture alone is enough, I don\u2019t need the Church\u2014but I am personally not strong enough to be guided by scripture alone. As Thomas More says to daughter Margaret in a different context, and I\u2019m paraphrasing: \u201cSome men may be capable of this, but I am loathe to think your father one of them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I have listened for years to the angel and devil debating from shoulder to shoulder. And like my friend I have remained in conflict, a conflict I <i>alone<\/i> cannot resolve. I need the Church, and since becoming a Catholic I am happier, more comfortable in my own skin than I have ever been. The angel and devil still argue, but often I just shrug and smile.<\/p>\n<p>I know the rebuttal: \u201cYou\u2019re blindly obedient. You follow a Church that, time and again through history, has proved to be corrupt.\u201d In fact, my own father anticipated this rebuttal when he wrote at the end of his memoir:<\/p>\n<p><i>There have been times in my life when I wondered whether I couldn\u2019t make a good monk. I believe strongly in discipline, <\/i>though not unquestioning obedience to leadership. <i>I believe that if you\u2019re going to do something, you should try to do it as well as you can and work at it. I believe that satisfaction comes from the struggle of trying to do things well.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>And the gospel reading for today spoke to this. \u201c . . . You hypocrites!\u201d Jesus said. \u201cYou know how to interpret the appearance of the earth and the sky; why do you not know how to interpret the present time? Why do you not judge for yourselves what is right? . . . \u201d<i> <\/i><\/p>\n<p>As Father Giussani, founder of Communion and Liberation, taught, we are called to make <i>judgments, <\/i>and not to give what my father called \u201cunquestioning obedience to leadership.\u201d We can interpret the weather, but we don\u2019t make the effort usually (we hypocrites!) to judge our experience from the vantage point of ultimate values, which are reflected in the deepest needs of our hearts.<\/p>\n<p>We need the Church, yes, and God gave us freedom too. Which means that while adhering to the Church, while <i>following, <\/i>I must also exercise my freedom and make judgments. Because if I don\u2019t, I will be turned over to the judge, and the judge will hand me over to the constable, and the constable will throw me into prison. Nor will I be released until I have paid the last penny.<\/p>\n<p>I have enough of my father in me to know that I could never hold with the other Protestant shibboleth: <i>sola fide\u2014<\/i>we are saved through faith alone. I think that making judgments and living a life of increasing sanctity is really something I have to work at. Other men may be capable of this, but I am loathe to think I am one of them. Because, at least in my case, the angel and the devil are still yammering at each other.<\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/tracker\/6738513599344023043-8181664146295390479?l=yimcatholic.blogspot.com\" alt=\"\"><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have been talking with a dear friend who is in conflict about something. 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