{"id":9332,"date":"2012-07-13T19:30:36","date_gmt":"2012-07-14T00:30:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/yimcatholic\/?p=9332"},"modified":"2017-01-24T17:54:58","modified_gmt":"2017-01-24T22:54:58","slug":"the-unplanned-baby-that-was-always-part-of-the-plan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/yimcatholic\/2012\/07\/the-unplanned-baby-that-was-always-part-of-the-plan.html","title":{"rendered":"“The Unplanned Baby That Was Always Part of the Plan”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Awwwwwwww.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p>

Disney Baby<\/em> (who knew?) shares a story (with the title above) that will warm your heart,<\/p>\n

Our baby Luke was a surprise, y\u2019all. And when Caroline and I learned she was pregnant with him, we fainted<\/del> were smack dab in the middle of the throes of toddlerhood. Times three. You see, I went from carefree bachelor to father of four in just 13 months thanks to marrying a single mom, then quickly conceiving triplets.<\/p>\n

And the triplets had proven to be quite a handful, especially when they were three-years-old, which was exactly when we learned of Luke (or Grand Finale as I\u2019d taken to calling him at that point). And the end result was two 41-year-old parents who loved their family exactly as it was. Four kids were plenty, thank you very much. Especially in light of the difficulty which came part and parcel with the triplets.<\/p>\n

So the unexpected news of Luke packed quite a punch, one from which it took quite some time to recover. Don\u2019t get me wrong. We were happy about the news and certainly felt blessed that we\u2019d get to be parents to yet another child. After all, we love babies (who doesn\u2019t?), and all was well with our marriage and our finances, so in our best moments we were 100% great with everything.<\/p>\n

But in our worst moments, doubt crept in and took hold. We worried we were too old (42 by the due date), too tired and spread too thin to do a good job of parenting our baby, not to mention everyone else. And speaking of everyone else, how would we ever\u00a0prepare our children for our baby\u2019s arrival\u00a0given we were having such a hard time preparing ourselves? And even when we\u00a0were\u00a0<\/em>finally (and completely) in the throes of pre-baby nesting, we\u00a0still<\/em>\u00a0struggled with how to prepare our children. Particularly the triplets. And though I didn\u2019t want to admit it, I was pretty sure I knew why.<\/p>\n

Our friends and family members had always referred to the triplets as \u201cthe babies,\u201d even after they\u2019d clearly graduated from the ranks of infancy. One of Caroline\u2019s buddies put it best: \u201cI know they\u2019re toddlers, but to me, they\u2019ll always be\u00a0the babies<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

And we felt the same way about the three little people who (we\u2019d always assumed) had completed our family. The children this one-time consummate bachelor thought he\u2019d never have. The ones the broken-hearted mom who\u2019d emerged from the broken home could have never, ever imagined. And I\u2019m sorry, but the tiny trio who served as concrete reminders that the love Caroline and I shared was not only real, but also, at least in some ways, miraculous?<\/p>\n

They were babies, y\u2019all. And on some level, they always would be. At least to us.<\/p>\n

So preparing them to be older siblings? Impossible. Especially during those not-so-great moments when our minds were filled with doubt. They weren\u2019t older siblings. They were the three perfect cherries atop the sundae that was<\/p>\n

our incredible story. And as such, during the pregnancy, I\u2019d often look at them and wonder\u00a0How can this be?\u00a0<\/em>They\u2019re<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0the ones who are supposed to be the most innocent and the youngest of our crew. Forever. Not anyone else.<\/em><\/p>\n

Intellectually, of course, I knew that once Luke began his reign of planet Earth, he\u2019d be the youngest and that would be that. And as Caroline\u2019s due date crept ever closer, I grew as anxious for the reality I was struggling to accept as I did for Luke, himself.\u00a0But as ready as I was for everything to take their literal place, there remained a corner of my mind which was mourning the loss of \u201cthe babies\u201d who would soon be forced to assume a role I\u2019d never envisioned \u2013 never wanted \u2013 for them.<\/p>\n

Then, on July 21 Luke was finally born. And it didn\u2019t take long for me to learn something. Those babies? They didn\u2019t wanna be babies any more.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve come to understand so much during the eleven months that have since passed. For starters, Caroline and I never had anything to worry about. We\u2019re not too old. We\u2019re not too tired. And we\u2019re not spread too thin for all these children. (Okay, that last one\u2019s a total lie \u2013 we\u2019re most definitely spread too thin, but stick with me here\u2026)<\/p>\n

Because it turned out that the child we\u2019d never planned had been part of the plan all along. An essential part. Not only for the evolution of our family in general, but also for the evolution of the triplets in specific.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Read the whole wonderful story==>> \u00a0Added bonus: there are more pictures!<\/a><\/p>\n

Because babies are wonderful, you know? It\u2019s like G.K. Chesterton says,<\/p>\n

We may scale the heavens and find new stars innumerable, but there is still the new star we have not found\u2013that on which we were born.\u00a0But the influence of children goes further than its first trifling effort of remaking heaven and earth. It forces us actually to remodel our conduct in accordance with this revolutionary theory of the marvellousness of all things. We do (even when we are perfectly simple or ignorant)\u2013we do actually treat talking in children as marvellous, walking in children as marvellous, common intelligence in children as marvellous. The cynical philosopher fancies he has a victory in this matter\u2013that he can laugh when he shows that the words or antics of the child, so much admired by its worshippers, are common enough. The fact is that this is precisely where baby-worship is so profoundly right. Any words and any antics in a lump of clay are wonderful, the child\u2019s words and antics are wonderful, and it is only fair to say that the philosopher\u2019s words and antics are equally wonderful. \u2014 from A Defense of Baby Worship<\/em><\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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