The ways in which "just sex" ends up being devalued and almost ignored, though, in wider society as well as in Pagan circles, is rather upsetting. In queer life, treating sex as if it is not important, or even becoming over-obsessed with it in compulsive ways, or not practicing safe sex, or just doing it when one is drunk, or any number of other things (which also happen in non-queer circles!), leads to innumerable abuses and devaluings of the experience and the realities involved. The amount of abusive and compulsive sex going on in the world today is staggering and horrific; and yet, the amount of unfulfilling and mechanistic sex is also staggering and horrific.
Ideally, sex between two people is a locus in which a profound opening of souls and bodies (but, primarily bodies-and there's nothing wrong with that!) can take place, and from which all sorts of wonderful things like creativity, inspiration, becoming energized, and developing emotional connections with the people involved are then possible. I would argue that it is only possible to have this type of sexual experience if one is doing full justice to one's own unique personhood, in all of its dimensions, as well as doing full justice to the personhood of one's chosen partners.
Not every sexual experience done in this way would be earth-shatteringly and star-shiningly amazing or intense or beautiful. But it wouldn't have to be if it was fulfilling and did justice to the reality of the people involved on the occasion concerned.
By doing full justice to one's own sexual self and wider personhood, and likewise that of one's chosen partners, I would suggest that one affirms the justice that many of us have experienced as the province of the gods. Through this, one is able to bring the reality of the gods more into the world in one's sexual activities, and indeed, one is able to make justice in the wider world more incarnate as well.
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