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The Hand on the Mirror

The Hand on the Mirror

A True Story of Life Beyond Death

by Janis Heaphy Durham

"The question of what happens after we die has always challenged us. The topic makes us uneasy. Here we are, living active and full lives. Why do we even want to think about death? Then it strikes." ~from the book

About the Book and Author

About the Book and Author

In 2004, Janis Heaphy Durham's husband, Max Besler, died of esophageal cancer at age 56. While coping with her grief, Heaphy Durham soon began encountering phenomena unlike anything she had ever experienced.

Read an Excerpt From The Hand on the Mirror

Read an Excerpt From The Hand on the Mirror

"On Sunday, May 8, 2005, my reality changed. That was the day I discovered a large handprint on the mirror of a bathroom in my home in Sacramento, California."

Death Is Not the End: TheHandontheMirror.org

Death Is Not the End: TheHandontheMirror.org

Join a community that offers not just an emotional framework, but a scientific foundation of legitimacy for conversations about death and the afterlife, as well as resources to explore.

Love That Reaches Across the Veil: Q&A with Janis Heaphy Durham

Love That Reaches Across the Veil: Q&A with Janis Heaphy Durham

"Clocks repeatedly stopped at 12:44 p.m., the exact time of Max’s death. Rugs moved -- watched and measured not just by me, but also by my current husband, Jim Durham."

#HandontheMirror Facebook

#HandontheMirror Facebook

Keep in touch with author Janis Heaphy Durham and share your thoughts on death, the afterlife, and The Hand on the Mirror in this place for safe, moderated discussion.

Book Roundtable: Continue the Conversation with our Bloggers

A Journey From Skeptic to Believer

A Journey From Skeptic to Believer

David Dashifen Kees

Durham's story could be considered one of conversion; not of a religious point of view, but still one that rocks the author to her core. It's one that feels familiar to me, and perhaps to others who’ve undertaken a journey of such personal magnitude.

When Love Outlasts Death

When Love Outlasts Death

Ellen Painter Dollar

Surely those of us who believe that a dead man rose to life again after three days in a tomb can make room in our world for the possibility that loved ones will reach out to us from beyond the grave, that the love we shared continues as a real and powerful force in the world.

Is 'Supernatural' the Right Word to Explain 'Hands on a Mirror'?

Is 'Supernatural' the Right Word to Explain 'Hands on a Mirror'?

Sam Alexander

We do not need a God who produces “supernatural” events, but we do need to recognize the nature of a God who interpenetrates creation, what Whitehead called the “gentle persuasion towards love.”

Not Your Typical Paranormal Story

Not Your Typical Paranormal Story

Suzanne Titkemeyer

Towards the end of the book it struck me that this is a book more about mourning the dead, the important dead in your life, a husband, a father and a mother, more than a serious tome on parapsychology.

A Sympathic Skeptic Responds

A Sympathic Skeptic Responds

Cassidy McGillicuddy

Ms. Durham has blown an entire supernatural world up in her head out of what are, for the most part, picayune coincidences and what are almost certainly human-caused trails of evidence. 

Beyond the Grave

Beyond the Grave

Joanne Brokaw

If there are both good and bad beings that can see me and interact with me, how do you know the difference? And do I really want to be able to see from beyond?

On the Question of Skepticism

On the Question of Skepticism

James McGrath

It seems to me that Dunham’s response it precisely right: we should acknowledge that many people have these sorts of experiences, and approach them with scientific rigor to understand and explain them, rather than dismissing them.

Janis Heaphy Durham on Her Unbelievably Believable Story About the Afterlife