Ashamed No More
A Pastor's Journey Through Sex Addiction
By T.C. Ryan
"...of wonderful value to any Christian anywhere, since the addict's experience becomes a metaphor that illuminates significant elements of everyone's spiritual life."
—Walter Wangerin Jr., theologian and author
Former Pastor T.C. Ryan takes us on an unsettling journey through his lifelong struggle with sexual addiction and charts a course towards healing.
Tim Keel from Jacob's Well interviews friend and fellow pastor T.C. Ryan about sexual addiction and the need for a healthy ethic of sexual wholeness in the Church.
Read what Tim Keel, Walter Wangerin, Jr., and others are saying about this new book on sexuality, addiction, and the church's role in grace and recovery.
"My story is no more unique or special than anyone else's. But it is worth sharing because for a long, long time I lived without hope, and now I have hope."
"We must learn to speak openly, honestly and unapologetically about the wonder of God's gift of sexuality, that there is no shame in struggling with our sexuality, and that hiding our struggles only intensifies their hold on us."
Half the people who will attend church this Sunday are dealing with unhealthy attachments and compulsive sexual behaviors.
Doug Pagitt interviews T.C. Ryan about sexual addiction on his weekly radio show, Religious Radio That's Not Quite Right.
Ryan's book is brave. It is smart. And it is touching. And although I wanted to hate it, I didn't.
None of us — not a single one — has good reason to look down on addicts. We are all sinners; ergo, we’re all addicts.
Natasha Helfer Parker
I appreciated Ryan’s willingness to share his personal story, his framing of information regarding sexual compulsion and the shame cycle, his respectful challenge to church organizations and Christian individuals, and his scripturally based perspectives regarding our relationship with a divine being who is willing to engage with us towards transcendence and wholeness.
If you haven't read it, even if you're not Catholic, it's worth reading. It's biblical. It's true. And it is all about how our sexuality is designed by God, for our good, in His image.
Even if you don’t share his ethics, this book is a great opportunity to get a window inside a type of addiction which needs more exposure.
Discussing the crucial role that honesty and humility plays in spiritual leadership, Ryan states that transformation occurs when we are candid about our failings, as well as the tools that have helped us to deal with them.