Through a Lens Darkly
No Insurance Policy for Love
A striking juxtaposition:
Earlier this year, Ariel and Deborah Levy filed a "wrongful birth" suit against the Portland-based Legacy Health System, citing hospital staff's failure to recognize the chromosomal abnormality indicating that their daughter had Down syndrome. The couple told the court that they would have terminated the pregnancy had they known of her condition, and "worry about who will care for their daughter once they are gone." The jury sided with them in early March, awarding the Levy family a nearly $3 million settlement.
Last week, columnist George Will wrote a moving piece on a topic dear to his heart: Jonathan Frederick Will, his 40-year-old son. Jon, like the Levys' daughter, was born with a chromosomal abnormality, giving his father first-hand experience of the increasingly troubling ways our "enlightened" society views those like his son—true innocents who, in Will's insightful words, "always depend on the kindness of strangers."
A recent viewing of Ocean Heaven (Haiyang tiantang)—the 2010 Hong Kong film that claims to feature the first "full drama role" of legendary action star Jet Li - brought all of these strands together in a new and poignant way for me.
Wang Xingchang (Li), a widowed aquarium worker whose life is dominated by the needs of his severally autistic son, Dafu, is notified that he has terminal cancer. Terrified at the thought of leaving his son lonely and unloved—without a champion—Wang resolves to drown the two of them. "I'd rather take him with me," the despairing father says, "than leave him suffering alone." But his efforts are thwarted by the young man's extraordinary ability in the water, and Wang is forced to resign himself to the inevitable separation. But the question of Dafu's future continues to plague him: "If Dad leaves and you don't come with me, who will take care of you?"
As Wang's condition worsens, he drills Dafu relentlessly on the ordinary tasks that will be vital to his survival, hoping to prepare him for the struggles that lie ahead. Yet as the end approaches, he finds his son capable of far more than he would ever have thought possible, thanks to the extraordinary generosity and kindness of those around him: the local grocer lady who beseeches Wang to let her adopt Dafu when the time comes; the traveling circus clown who befriends the young man and promises to be his companion despite the distance; the aquarium owner and Wang's fellow employees, earnestly striving to lighten their friend's burden by helping in any way possible. They convince Wang that his son will never be alone, and that he will be loved to the end of his days. But the weakening father still faces his greatest challenge: finding the words to tell his beloved son of his impending death.
Joseph Susanka has been doing development work for institutions of Catholic higher education since his graduation from Thomas Aquinas College in 1999. He blogs at Crisis Magazine, where he also contributes feature articles on a variety of topics.