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Valentine's Day
A Holiday Loved and Loathed

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Love is in the air.

Valentine's Day is a time to celebrate love and romance with your special someone with gifts and grand gestures of appreciation.

Opinions and polls, however, suggest that many of us are disenchanted with the red and pink clad holiday for one reason or another.

Regardless of where you fall on the spectrum, Patheos writers offer something for everyone—from history lessons, to gift recommendations, celebration ideas and love advice to enrich your relationship throughout the year.


Recent Perspectives on Valentine's Day

Rumi on Life, Love, and Death

Rumi on Life, Love, and Death

Sunil Daman

Here are some of the best quotes and poems from the famed 13th-century Sufi mystic, Rumi—the founder of the order of whirling dervishes.

Celebrating Valentine's During Treatment

Celebrating Valentine's During Treatment

Kathleen Okeefe

Can you look beautiful during treatment? Yes you can!

Become Your Toddler's Secret Admirer, A Valentine's Day Tip

Become Your Toddler's Secret Admirer, A Valentine's Day Tip

Suzanne Ross

How is it that we can become so adversarial with the very ones we love with all our hearts?

Six Valentine's Day Gifts Your Husband Actually Wants

Six Valentine's Day Gifts Your Husband Actually Wants

Dave Willis

Don't buy your husband flowers or chocolates. He doesn't need more Old Spice or another tie. If you want to make his day this Valentine's Day, give him...

Valentine's Day: Pagan or Christian?

Valentine's Day: Pagan or Christian?

Jason Mankey

Is Valentine's Day an old pagan celebration? The celebration of a Catholic Saint? What if I told you it was neither?

Valentine's Day, the Church and Single Awareness Day

Valentine's Day, the Church and Single Awareness Day

Scot McKnight

So unfortunately this year Valentine's Day falls on a Sunday.

Valentine's Love Spell

Valentine's Love Spell

Heron Michelle

After Imbolc tides shift just past 15 degrees Aquarius and begin to wane onward towards Ostara, it is a GREAT time to celebrate romance and love of all flavors.

Valentine's Day Is Coming: Do You Know Rumi?

Valentine's Day Is Coming: Do You Know Rumi?

George G. Coe

Valentine's Day is coming and much of Rumi's popular poetry is about love.

Moving Beyond Loneliness and the Hookup Culture

Moving Beyond Loneliness and the Hookup Culture

Tony Rossi

How to find love, what to do once you have found it, and what role God can and should play in your relationship: an interview with Monica Gabriel, relationships editor for Verily magazine.

Just in Time for Valentine's Day, Learn How to Give a Massage

Just in Time for Valentine's Day, Learn How to Give a Massage

Sean Lowe

Getting in some massage practice ahead of Valentine's Day with these awesome tutorial videos.

More Resources

A Coupon for Not Getting Kicked In the Nuts

A Coupon for Not Getting Kicked In the Nuts

Simcha Fisher

For 14 years, my poor husband has been wondering why, on every Feb. 14, I would say I wasn’t mad at him while I clearly was.

I'm In Love With My Husband... and Other People, Too

I'm In Love With My Husband... and Other People, Too

Reba Riley

I love other men in a "I am wildly attracted to this person and must know more immediately" kinda way. Women too, for that matter.

Valentine's Day or Lupercalia? A Pagan Dilemma

Valentine's Day or Lupercalia? A Pagan Dilemma

Peg Aloi

Hard on the heels of Valentine's Day is the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia. The wolf is central to Lupercalia, a figure that permeates Paganism and many choose as a totem animal or symbol of their path.

Christian Singleness Doesn't Mean Ignoring the Hunger for Sex

Christian Singleness Doesn't Mean Ignoring the Hunger for Sex

Nancy French

Like the bum tooth that your tongue keeps finding, no matter how much you try to ignore it, sexual desires become even more pronounced when you're single. Here's how to cope.

Husbands: Know Your Wives

Husbands: Know Your Wives

Tyler Kirkpatrick

What is it that God desires and commands of men and husbands?

Lessons from the Bible's Raunchiest Book

Lessons from the Bible's Raunchiest Book

Duane Garrett

The Song of Songs is love poetry, centered on celebrating the beauty of love between man and woman.

My Creepy Catholic Valentine

My Creepy Catholic Valentine

Artur Rosman

We often forget there is a relic below the altar in each and every Catholic church around the world. The skull of St. Valentine resides in a glass case in a Roman basilica.

Does the L-Word Belong in Business?

Does the L-Word Belong in Business?

J.B. Wood

Did she really just tell that customer that she loves her? This blatant profession of love in the midst of public enterprise made me cringe.

What's Love Got To Do With It?

What's Love Got To Do With It?

Jennifer D. Crumpton

To each her own when it comes to sexual preferences and pursuit of self-knowledge within mutually agreed upon experiences.

10 Essential Principles for True Intimacy

10 Essential Principles for True Intimacy

Dave Willis

These timeless love lessons can help you become a better spouse, a better friend, a better parent, and a better person.