Your Pagan Family

Your Pagan Family February 7, 2011

Really the idea of creating non-biological family is nothing new and pretty prevalent in this day and age, but Paganism almost has this as a core tenet. We tend to create family as easily as we breathe, and this is a marvelous thing. Although, it is a sad truth that so many of us do not have a biological family that accepts us, which spurs us to create alternative forms of family to fill that void.

I’m in Houston right now visiting Dave of the Pagan Centered Podcast and while here I’ve been thinking about created family. I consider Dave family. He’s one of the many people I have met over the course of the year who I would help move. That’s one of my key definitions of family. If I will agree to help you move without hesitation then you are family. It’s amazing the number of people that I am friends with in the Pagan community that I feel that sort of kinship to.

We are family without labels or titles. We’re not uncles, cousins, grandparents, or any other sort of order and hierarchy. We are simply kin. We accept and embrace each other as we are, and encourage each other to grow and succeed. We are there for each other. We speak truth to each other. We laugh together for hours. We can sit in silence together and be at peace.

I will be the first to admit I’m not the best “kinfolk” to have. I have a good many faults, the worst being overcommitting myself and then letting people down. Yet I wanted to take a moment to thank all my chosen family. I love all of y’all and appreciate your presence in my life.

Take a moment today to let your chosen family know you appreciate them. Give them a hug, give them a call or send them a note.

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  • I agree completely with this particular post, as my experiences have been quite similar. My family in Paganism stuck by me when I was kicked out of my father’s house for being Pagan.

  • I agree completely with this particular post, as my experiences have been quite similar. My family in Paganism stuck by me when I was kicked out of my father’s house for being Pagan.

  • Zevenster

    LOL, that’s funny. Telling us that your definition of “family” is “helping me move”. And then stating that you are overcommitting and letting people down… That’s really funny, frankly.
    But I know what you mean – I am myself teaching me to stop promising help left and right and in the process loosing myself and my spare energy…
    I have been let down by people a lot (probably because I sort of expect them to be as overcommitting as I am myself), not only in the mundane world, but also in Pagan life. Sometimes it seems as if Pagans are even better at not keeping appointments, promises, arrangements… I keep to my small nuclear family of love and blood, and am satisfied with that. In the end the only person you really can rely on, is yourself (when you stop overcommitting, that is).

  • Zevenster

    LOL, that’s funny. Telling us that your definition of “family” is “helping me move”. And then stating that you are overcommitting and letting people down… That’s really funny, frankly.
    But I know what you mean – I am myself teaching me to stop promising help left and right and in the process loosing myself and my spare energy…
    I have been let down by people a lot (probably because I sort of expect them to be as overcommitting as I am myself), not only in the mundane world, but also in Pagan life. Sometimes it seems as if Pagans are even better at not keeping appointments, promises, arrangements… I keep to my small nuclear family of love and blood, and am satisfied with that. In the end the only person you really can rely on, is yourself (when you stop overcommitting, that is).

  • Blairbyoung

    my pagan family is quite small at the moment but my nuclear family has grown by two babies in the last 16 months. ive never been one to over commit myself. i know my limitations and plan accordingly whether for a pagan event or something closer to home.

  • Blairbyoung

    my pagan family is quite small at the moment but my nuclear family has grown by two babies in the last 16 months. ive never been one to over commit myself. i know my limitations and plan accordingly whether for a pagan event or something closer to home.

  • LOL That’s how we define family where I’m at, too. It’s gotten to the point where we’re seriously considering making Pagan Moving Co. t-shirts.

  • LOL That’s how we define family where I’m at, too. It’s gotten to the point where we’re seriously considering making Pagan Moving Co. t-shirts.