This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Questioning 1. When did you start to question what you were told about sexuality? What prompted you to rethink your beliefs? (more…) Read more
Possible trigger warning: This post contains some profanity, and is written for those members of my audience whose physical abilities allow them to play active sports or lift heavy weights, especially women interested in trying weight lifting. I’ve often remarked on the way the modesty doctrine made me think of my body as a decoration – and a flawed one, at that. I was supposed to be pretty but not sexual, which to me meant starving off all curves and... Read more
This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Romantic Relationships 5. Do you still hold any of the beliefs about relationships that you were taught in fundamentalism? If yes, which ones? Note: No, you’re not going crazy! We’re skipping question 4 on this round, as it pertains to people... Read more
This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Romantic Relationships 3. How did your fundamentalist upbringing or training impact your own sexual identity and/or experience of sex? (See, for example, Libby Anne’s post about her beliefs about sexual compatibility changing after marriage.) (more…) Read more
Where’s the next post for the sexuality project?! you may be asking. Don’t worry, they’re coming back: tomorrow! But today is a special day. That’s why I chose to post two more entries from my story and introduce one of its most important characters: Stuart of the Lovely Locks. The man who became my fiance. July 7, 2007 Stuart asked me out on July 7, 2007, and we went on our first date on my birthday, several days later. (Yep,... Read more
This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series. Read the rest here. A couple of days after moving onto campus, Molly informed me that she was expecting a visitor. He was a friend from her Dungeons and Dragons group, coming by to pick up one of his books from their last game. Molly called him “Stuart of the Lovely Locks.” I turned around. “What?” “He has long hair,” she explained. “And it’s gorgeous. I just want to pet his... Read more
This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series that I have been slowly putting together over the past couple of years. Read the rest of it on No Longer Quivering. A month after my acceptance, I was moving onto campus for my first autumn semester at Rowling College.* Most of my community college credits had transferred, leaving me a semester ahead of that year’s incoming freshmen. The same summer, my mother and I had finally filled out... Read more
Apparently, one of the google searches that led to my blog recently asked this question: is liking modest girls sexist No, it isn’t. It’s only sexist if you think every girl should dress in a manner that you (and/or your interpretation of God) find pleasing. If you’re just into loose clothing with long hemlines, more power to you. If you think every girl needs to dress that way, or you make judgments about a girl’s character based on her dress... Read more
This is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. You can read the full list of questions here and the posting plan here. The first six participants whose stories I’ll be posting are Melissa and Haley, Lina and V, Latebloomer and Katy-Anne. Romantic Relationships 2. Did your beliefs about sexuality change after marriage or beginning a relationship? If applicable, did break-ups and/or divorce impact your beliefs? (more…) Read more
Leaders of the Christian Patriarchy Movement and their disciples (minor pastors who covet their attention) will say a lot of things to sugarcoat wifely submission. Complementarians say that true contentment comes from submitting to your God-given role as an obedient helper to your husband. That women who feel unfulfilled need only to submit to their husbands and bear children, and all that unhappiness will go away. There are also the scriptural benefits: God’s plan for the family includes protections and... Read more
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