This person left a msg on my personal blog and after reading through the site, I found the following to be very eye opening. Of course, after reading The Girls Who Went Away, what this woman has to say is nothing new, but it may be for those unaffected by adoption.
“Be grateful you weren’t aborted.”
I wonder if a “non adopted” person has ever even been told that, in general.
I can’t think of a situation where I’ve heard a non adopted person release emotions from traumas in their life and had “be grateful you weren’t aborted” thrown back in return.
Oh you didn’t know? Yep, I’m told it at least once a week online and I don’t have enough fingers to count how many times I’ve been told that IRL offline too. I guess, based on my own personal experience I could come to the conclusion that the majority of the public believes that if I wouldn’t have been adopted , I would have been aborted. That or left in an orphanage(even though I’m a US domestic adoptee), or foster care, they just assumed adoptees are unwanted and that because of that we have no right to be equal human beings, we have to settle for second best of everything because, we were accidents, we’re unwanted mistakes, illegitimate bastards.
All of her posts are powerful. I recommend a good read through. WARNING: Your assumptions may be challenged.
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