So, while we all know theoretically that dying is a relief—even "liberating," so to speak (especially if you're suffering)—it's still not something we want to do. Naturally, we all want to live. But one thing I do want to suggest strongly is this: Compared to some things, death is not nearly as bad as you may think it is.
It won't be easy, and it will be sad, and it will inspire painful feelings of powerlessness and loss. In short, it's certainly nobody's idea of a good time. But if we can just agree that much of Life definitely is a good time, and if dying is really just a particularly difficult part of living, then we can try considering all of the things that have made the difficult parts of life more bearable, even enriching. Many of the same realizations, approaches, and principles that have seen us through the hard times before and made life happier and more fulfilling will work the same way for us as we navigate through our most careful and mysterious challenges. Maybe there's a little of that real magic that can help us out too.