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Infertility, the Stuff of Fairytales?

Instead, the show jolted me out of its escapist fantasy with the vivid memory of the "cursed" mindset that can dog infertile couples.

The cursed mindset says that you and your spouse can never be happy, can never be enough without a child.

And that is a lie.

Just like the lie that being infertile has anything to do with how much God loves you.

Marriage is not just about children. A happy marriage is, in itself, a miracle testifying to God's goodness and life's joy. It is allowed to be enough.

Healthy marriages of infertile couples are threatened by the mentality that if the two who became one do not go on to become three or four, they will never really be happy. This is an absurd proposition even by fairy tale standards. We need look no further than Charming and Snow to see what I mean.

This episode invites viewers, now caught up in the Snow White's infertility scare, to forget that she and Prince Charming have already overcome incredible odds simply to find one another. They are beautiful, young, and poised to rule their realm side by side. Their love is so strong that, in another episode, a sorcerer literally tries to bottle it as the most powerful magic of all.

So something is wrong with the storybooks, just as something is wrong with the stories whispered by the devil on our shoulders. We should be very suspicious of any narrative that rules out a happily ever after for people without kids. These couples, with God's help, are writing great endings of their own.

11/15/2012 5:00:00 AM