I heard an interview recently with a woman who is in a triadic relationship. She is married happily to her husband, and with her husband's consent she is also partnered in a loving and committed sexual relationship with another woman. Which part of that triad should be denied the dignity of marriage and thus rendered second-class? And why is that not an arbitrary judgment about the human capacity for love and commitment?
The bottom line is that proponents of same-sex marriage decouple the meaning of marital love from its natural and divine purpose. The sexual embrace, open to new life, is rendered sterile, devoid of natural meaning or expression. For most, this decoupling is promoted innocently and in a spirit of good will and fairness. Nevertheless, it distorts the inherent meaning of marriage and further diminishes the crippled role marriage now plays as the basic cell of our society.
Phil A. Webb Jr. is Director of the Office of Marriage and Family Life, and Ecumenical and Interreligious Affairs for the Archdiocese of Denver.