Love, Religious Style

Daniel M of Good Reason relays this poignant anecdote:

I was on a long car trip with my very Mormon mother. Out of the blue, she said, “So you think it’s okay for gay people to get married, do you?”

“Yeah,” I said. “I think it’ll be fine.”

Mom said “What if your sons turned out gay? Then what would you say?”

“If they turned out gay, I’d say ‘I love you, son, and I want you to be happy and be with someone you love.’”

She said “I think you’ve lost your mind.”

“Oh, come on, Mom. What if I’d turned out gay? You might find it a little hard to understand, but you’d still love me, wouldn’t you?”

And there was a long silence.

And she said simply, “Well… I don’t know.”

Now my mom’s a good person who loves me a lot. (Of course, I am straight.) I don’t know if she feels that way because of the Mormon church, or because she’s from a slightly older generation. But whatever could make a person feel that way about their own child — that is some bad fucking mojo right there.

So I want to apologise profusely to every gay person out there for everything that our society puts you through in life. I’m so sorry. Please forgive us all. Some of us are getting there.

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About Daniel Fincke

Dr. Daniel Fincke  has his PhD in philosophy from Fordham University and spent 11 years teaching in college classrooms. He wrote his dissertation on Ethics and the philosophy of Friedrich Nietzsche. On Camels With Hammers, the careful philosophy blog he writes for a popular audience, Dan argues for atheism and develops a humanistic ethical theory he calls “Empowerment Ethics”. Dan also teaches affordable, non-matriculated, video-conferencing philosophy classes on ethics, Nietzsche, historical philosophy, and philosophy for atheists that anyone around the world can sign up for. (You can learn more about Dan’s online classes here.) Dan is an APPA  (American Philosophical Practitioners Association) certified philosophical counselor who offers philosophical advice services to help people work through the philosophical aspects of their practical problems or to work out their views on philosophical issues. (You can read examples of Dan’s advice here.) Through his blogging, his online teaching, and his philosophical advice services each, Dan specializes in helping people who have recently left a religious tradition work out their constructive answers to questions of ethics, metaphysics, the meaning of life, etc. as part of their process of radical worldview change.


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