Camels With Hammers
Philosophy, Ethics, Atheism, Nietzsche
A great case is made in less than 5 minutes:
he’s DEAD RIGHT that any adoptive parent – gay, straight, or from another planet – is necessarily an intentional parent, never an accidental parent, and generally speaking, that has huge positive consequences for the kind of environment in which the child can expect to be raised. i know several gay couples who are amazing parents (one of my son’s best friends has two dads), and others who would be if they could legally adopt and/or chose to do so.
having been an adoptive parent for nearly four years now, though, it’s also worth pointing out that, at least in my experience, adoptive families are often 1) treated as second-class, 2) viewed reductively, and 3) obsequiously valorized. as for the first, i regularly catch mild condescension on the fringes of interactions with “real” families, and frequently have to endure rude comments from ignorant twits about things that never come for “regular” families. regarding the second, because we are a trans-racial family, when we are together in public, many people assume they know everything important about us just by looking at us; you can see it in the way they stare at you. as for the third, more people than i could possibly count have praised us for adopting, telling us what a noble and grand thing it is that we’ve done, as though adopting was for us simply a matter of do-goodism. i always want to tell those people to F off.
I think you should at least write at least a paragraph or two…Otherwise why not just post it on FB for us to watch. You do a lot of this and…
Joshua – Did you think that those people would say adopting in a grand or noble thing to any adoptive parent? Just thinking you sound a little angry. I raised two kids of my own. I think anyone who adopts is doing something noble.
Is it me, my ISP, my connection or is YooToob twitchy?
*high-fives Joshua for being an adoptive parent*
You rock! I am adopted from 3 weeks old almost 38 years ago.
I never quite got the three problems from parents growing up, but I must have been “protected” from such by them (thanks, Mom/Dad). I never had any problems with discrimination or being told that I am a “lesser” cuz I am adopted. Few friends off-line know cuz I kinda look like my adoptive Dad. I never felt ashamed of being adopted. As for “do-goodism”, *eyeroll*. That’s all the response I have for that comment.
I am a staunch supporter of adoption, and I am also a strong supporter for GBLT adoptions too. We have so many unwanted-but-freakingly-ADORABLE babies/toddlers/teens that it’s sad not enough people are considering adoption.
If I don’t have anything to add, the extra paragraph or two isn’t really worth your time. The reason to post here instead of on Facebook is that I have a lot of readers here who are not on Facebook.
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