High alert trigger warning. Read with caution.
What kind of an evil person would write something like this to anyone who tells him that he or she has been raped?
Yeah. Well, you deserved it. So, fuck you. I hope it happens again soon. I’m tired of being treated like shit by you mean little cunts and then you using your rpae as an excuse. Fuck you. I think we should give teh guy who raped you a medal. I hope you fucking drown in rape semen, you ugly, mean-spirited cow. Actually, I don’t believe you were ever raped! What man would be tasteless enough to stick his dick into a human cesspool like you? Nice gif of a turd going into my mouth. Is that kind of like the way that rapists dick went in your pussy? Or did he use your asshole? Or was it both? Maybe you should think about it really hard for the next few hours. Relive it as much as possible. You know? Try to recall: was it my pussy or my ass?
This guy, with 290,594 You Tube subscribers and 94,453,812 views of his videos, that’s who. I just unsubscribed. I should have gotten around to it when I first discovered he was part of the stomach churning torrent of abuse constantly hitting Rebecca Watson.
But now, after I read all the disgusting details of what he was up to last night, I think every atheist with a conscience and a platform (whether it be Facebook or a Freethought Blog) needs to say that this amazing asshole does not represent the countless truly amazing atheists out there.
His real name is TJ Kincaid and he goes by the handle “terroja” and his YouTube videos bill him as “The Amazing Atheist”. Make these names infamous. Spread the word that he deserves to be shamed out of the community. Unsubscribe from him. Encourage others to unsubscribe. Make sure he never parlays his YouTube prominence into a place on the atheist speaker circuit or publishing list.
And for those of you who actually think what he said above can be classified as some sort of justifiable “satire” or rebellion against censoriousness, I recommend you catch up on my posts How Atheist Reddit Doesn’t Get It and Schrödinger’s Rapist and Schrödinger’s Racist to get clearer on the ethics of respecting women.
UPDATE 1: I’ve been accused of inconsistency for not calling out the ICumWhenIKillMen username that Kincaid considers just provocation for his abusive behavior. For the conscience-impaired, that username was disgusting and worthy of unequivocal denunciation too. As is the regular barrage of misogyny coming from MRA forums and from the blog ERV, which it was meant to satirize.
There are clear lines, for anyone not overwhelmed with hate, between satire and dehumanizing hostility. And when you encounter dehumanizing hostility it is wrong to respond with more of the same in return. Two wrongs do not make a right. I did not respond to Kincaid’s comment relishing how he would rape someone and trying to emotionally violate that person by calling for anything violent or dehumanizing to happen to him. I just called for him to be shamed as an irresponsible person willing to hurt someone in a truly malicious way. No provocation justifies his reply. And I have consistently written against abusive verbal treatment of others. I denounce it in atheists, in fellow left wingers, etc. This is not some arbitrary (and inexplicable) misandry on my part.
Secondly, it is alleged that TJ Kincaid’s claim to being a rape survivor too justifies his behavior. He does not deserve his public platform and he does not deserve to treat people maliciously simply because others have treated him unconscionably in the past. I’m not a psychologist. I have no idea about his ultimate mental state, so do not take the following analogies as any kind of diagnoses or insults: Psychopaths and child rapists often were violently and/or sexually abused when young. These do not exempt them from criticism for killing or raping or even from verbally abusing people. When unrepentant and violent in their words or deeds, they do not deserve public platforms of prominence to spread their views on the world.
Maybe Kincaid needs professional psychological help. Maybe he needs a lot of love from people in his life. I have no idea his mental diagnosis and do not presume to judge. All I know is his behavior—regardless of its far distant or more immediate triggers—makes him at minimum an emotionally reckless and potentially destructive person who makes the places he resides on the internet threatening, upsetting, and exclusionary to nearly all women. He carelessly stokes other men’s anger and models violent language and celebrates the violent treatment of others. What spilled out on the internet seemed to come out of a seething cauldron of hatred. The public atheist community is not the place for him to vent or to get whatever help he needs—whether it is merely anger management classes or whether it is more intensive psychiatric help. I truly wish him the best as a fellow human being. But he is only unrepentantly perpetuating cycles of violence and that is inexcusable, whatever his history.
Finally, even by the false and childish excuse I’m hearing on Facebook, such that “two wrongs made a right” and that his interlocutor got what he deserved by provoking him, what he did was shamefully inexcusable because he was writing in a public forum and verbally assaulting all rape victims—not just the one verbally sparring with him, but all of them looking on. And that is utterly disgraceful and such behavior needs to be purged from the atheist forums. That’s not censorship, it’s the enforcement of minimal standards of civility and morality.
UPDATE 2: PZ has a definitive explanation of the situation and a sound response to it. More insightful coverage also comes from Sincerely, Natalie Reed, Lousy Canuck, Crommunist Manifesto, Blag Hag, X-Blog, and The Atheist Experience (who alerted all the rest of us this morning).