The sixth of the Virtues is humility. In many religious traditions, humility is considered the very highest of virtues, and while I think it is an important and desirable quality to practice, I wouldn’t go quite so far. Furthermore, as we’ll see, my idea of what constitutes humility differs somewhat from the theistic view.
What I advocate is not the humility enshrined in many religious texts, the aim of which is to abase oneself and think of oneself as lowly and worthless, in order to avoid swift vengeance from jealous and insecure deities. In the classic conception of many religions, the worst crime one can possibly commit – worse than murder, worse than war, worse than rape – is to think of oneself as like God. (On the other hand, these same religions often insist that people should try to be like God – “Christlike”, in the Christian tradition, for example – through following the norms of behavior they claim he has laid down and reenacting rituals that are supposed to create a sense of divine presence. Maybe it would be more accurate to say that religions want people to act like God, but only through the “correct”, officially approved methods.)
What I advocate is something different. There is nothing in this humanist humility that forbids one to take pride in a job well done, nor does it demand false modesty in the face of achievement, nor does it ask us to abstain from seeking recognition through merit. Instead, what I propose is a spirit of selfless competition, one that strives to outdo others in virtue and achievement yet takes the same satisfaction no matter who the winner is. Being humble means valuing the deed itself, and not using it as a vehicle for fame or self-aggrandisement.
Being humble means being realistic about our own fallibility. Since we are human beings, we make mistakes. That is an obvious truth, one acknowledged by every religion on the planet. Yet most of them fall short of taking it to its logical conclusion, namely that human intuition and “common sense” cannot be trusted unless they are supported by evidence. Instead, many religious people believe that their own subjective conviction that something is true constitutes sufficient evidence that it is true, and their religions praise and encourage that. A true humility would not rest such unjustified confidence in the ability of humans to directly discern truth, and would insist that we justify our decisions with facts to which anyone can appeal; nor would it ever claim that our knowledge is perfect or our conclusions infallible.
Being humble means seeking out other opinions and other viewpoints. When we arrogantly claim that our culture, our scripture, our way of life is the only one that is good or worth knowing about, not only do we look ridiculous and ignorant, we miss out on the true wonder and diversity of thought waiting to be experienced. The humble person knows that every meeting with another, every deep and meaningful interaction between minds, broadens and enriches both lives in a way that is not otherwise possible. Being humble does not mean considering all cultural beliefs to be of equal value or moral worth, nor does it mean that some ideas and practices are not morally superior to others, but it does mean that we should take the initiative to seek out for ourselves what is good and not assume that we already possess it.
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