Barber’s Hate Letter to LGBT Teens

Many of us recently offered our thoughts on what we would say about sex and sexuality to a teenager and one of the common themes was to make sure that if that teen were gay, that was okay and normal and should never be a source of shame. Matt Barber of Liberty Counsel does the exact opposite in his open letter to gay teens. Most of it is just lame preaching like this:

You will read truth here, not because I say it’s true – I’m nobody – but, rather, because the Creator of the universe, the very God Who wove you together in your mother’s womb made it true.

His truths never change.

Really? Because, if the Bible is to be believed, he demanded that women be stoned to death if they aren’t virgins on their wedding day, along with many other barbaric commands. Has that truth never changed?

I have three kids, a boy and two girls. My son will soon enter his teenage years. I’ve had many people ask me what I’d say to my children if one of them came to me and declared: “Dad, I’m gay.”

Here’s what I’d say. I’d tell them exactly what I’m about to tell you.

I love you. I neither judge you nor condemn you. I accept you and I would die for you.

But you are not “gay.”

Yes, you may be physically attracted to people of the same sex, but how you act on those attractions is entirely your choice. Who you are – your identity – is not defined by your sexual feelings, temptations or behaviors. The difference between who you are and what you feel or do is as the difference between night and day.

He has it exactly backwards, of course. Who you are, your identity, is, in fact, defined by your desires and preferences. That’s why it’s called a sexual orientation. A straight person can choose to have sex with someone of the same gender (porn stars do it routintely) and a gay person can choose to have sex with someone of the opposite gender (lots of closeted gay people in sham marriages have done that), but that does not change who they are or what their orientation is at all.

Homosexual behavior is always wrong – demonstrably and absolutely wrong.


Every major world religion, thousands of years of history and uncompromising human biology declare this objective reality from the rooftops.

“Uncompromising human biology”? Is he playing a game of madlibs? What is that first word doing in that phrase at all?

Though your heart may deceive you, something deep within you knows this to be true. Scripture says, “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. …” …

If you are caught up in homosexual sin, you know – intuitively you know – that such conduct is wrong, that it is both immoral and unnatural behavior.

Don’t you love being told what you really know? I’ll take presumptuous bullshit for $1000, Alex.

In fact, homosexual sin is expressly identified in both the Old and New Testaments as being among the list of sins that, if committed without repentance, will prevent you from “inheriting the kingdom of God.”

That is to say, yes; unrepentant homosexual behavior is disobedience to God. If we rebel against God and refuse to repent and ask His forgiveness, then we have chosen our own fate – we have chosen to disqualify ourselves from heaven.

We have chosen hell.

Yes, that’s a good way to handle a gay teenager — tell them that they’re going to burn in hell for eternity because they’re gay. That will help so much.

Love without truth is hate.

This is what Daniel Dennett calls a “deepity.” It is, quite literally, gibberish. It’s meaningless nonsense phrases in a way that makes it sound as though it expresses some profound idea.

But there is hope.

Jesus loves you with a love that no human can fully grasp. This is true not because of your so-called “sexual orientation,” but, rather, it is true in spite of it.

Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

Kids, take your sexual confusion – your struggle with sin – to Christ.

Yes, and when that fails to change your sexual orientation, we’ll blame it on your lack of faith. You obviously just don’t want to change. And then you’ll probably try to kill yourself. But don’t worry, they love you so much that they want to change everything you are. Love — you’re doing it wrong.

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