More Support, More Community: Announcing Our New Helpline

The Hotline at RfR exists to put hands and feet, or in this case, eyes and ears, to our mission statement: To offer hope, healing, and support to those struggling with issues of doubt and nonbelief. In the two years of its existence, the Hotline has handled hundreds of calls, fielded by dozens of trained volunteers. The Chatline, added last year, opened up a new avenue of communication. It is our joy and pleasure to announce an expansion of this project. [Read more…]

Thoughts for Doubting Believers

Maybe your doubts have piled up slowly, like dust on the furniture until one day they’re so thick you can trace in them with your finger. Maybe instead they show up on some days but not others, like a stray cat at your doorstep looking for a handout. [Read more…]

Honey, I’m an Atheist: Losing My Faith and Telling My Wife About It

And there it was. With just a few sentences, I had changed forever who my wife was married to. I had gone from a man of faith to a man who believes there is no god to look to for answers and guidance and everything else that comes with that. This means no need for church or religious rituals like prayers before meals or daily Bible study. It means no longer fitting into the same social settings. [Read more…]

The Too-Small God

Compared to the vastness of space and time, the Bible God is a trivial thing. It is a being that feels jealousy and rage; a being that could without a qualm drown millions of living things that it had made, because they disappointed it; a being that would knock down the tower of Babel and confuse people’s minds because it didn’t want them to learn anything. [Read more…]

Searching for Answers: My Deconversion, Part 2

So what was I left with? Innocent people experienced pain and suffering, prayer seemed to do nothing to alleviate this, and deep down no one really knew why. I saw a god that would kill and destroy people as he saw fit, even innocent children, and would in the end send pretty much everyone to eternal torture. [Read more…]

Questioning the Nature of God: My Deconversion, Part 1

I know that most of the people in the churches I grew up in would shake their heads at my reasoning here. I know that in the past I quietly pitied people who had these thoughts. But the more I studied and the more questions I asked, the more about God’s nature I questioned. This is what finally broke me. [Read more…]

Disillusioned: From Church Leader to Unbeliever

The more I got involved in leadership, the more frustrated I became with the “ungodlike” behavior of the elders who oversaw the congregation. Everything was very political—these men were pushing their own agendas instead of what was best for the church. Yet you only knew this if you were actively involved. [Read more…]

Everyone Can Benefit from Self-Care

Self-care does not have to be a chore. It does not have to take a great deal of time out of your day, and it can include things you can do when you feel like you can’t even get out of bed or face the morning. [Read more…]

Self-Led, Fulfilling, Free: My Life as an Atheist

From that moment on, it finally made sense to me. This was the god that everyone wanted me to believe was real. Unfortunately, there was no way that I could ever want to follow someone as egomaniacal as this guy. [Read more…]

The Burden of Religious Guilt

It’s no wonder that I and many of my peers struggle with self-doubt and anxiety. From the time we can form our first rational thought, we are bombarded with messages about how in the eyes of God we are not good enough. We are not worthy of his love. Any little sin we commit is responsible for the horrible death of Jesus. [Read more…]