Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling, and Consent


Jeub writes that a married man having a consensual affair is “just as bad” as a married man sexually assaulting a woman. When Jeub posted this piece on his facebook wall, a lively discussion ensued between him and a number of homeschool graduates. In that discussion, Jeub admitted that consent is “a topic that I don’t know much about.” I want to weigh in here because of the relevance of my two boxes thesis to this conversation. [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Sexual Sins as Far as the Eye Can See


Last post we talked about the basics of a wife’s spots, wrinkles and blemishes. The next few sections will be delving deeper into each of these. Today we’re talking about spots. More specifically, the spots that one’s wife has picked up because of sexual impurities. I hope you’re ready for a big bucket of bananas, because that’s what’s being served up today! [Read more...]

When Every Touch Is Sexualized

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Bill Gothard has now admitted that he held hands with teenage girls in his employ, touched their feet, and caressed their hair, but he claims that none of that was sexual. I grew up in the same cohort and culture as these girls. As such, I think I need to share a bit more of my own story, because it sheds light on the significance of physical touch within purity culture. I haven’t shared these things because they’re quite personal and a bit embarrassing, but duty calls, so here goes. [Read more...]

Shorter Bill Gothard: Playing Footsie Isn’t Sexual!

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Does Gothard honestly expect anyone to believe that a 50 or 60-year-old man could play footsie with a 16-year-old girl, hold and stroke her hands for long periods of time, caress her hair, etc., all without any “sexual intent”? Especially a 50 or 60-year-old man who leads a religious empire and teaches his followers that couples should not touch or have physical contact before marriage? [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “He will be your head, and you will follow him”


We now begin Debi’s chapter on being obedient to one’s husband. In this first section, Debi mainly just quotes Bible verses, and then interprets them for her readers. In this post I’ll touch on some issues of interpretation, but I’ll also bring out some other pieces that come up, including a passage that sheds light on Debi’s view of the role of daughters, and more on Michael’s view of church authority. [Read more...]

Is That the Best You Can Do, WORLD?


In other words, WORLD magazine’s concern is to say “no no, don’t get us confused with those people! we’re different!” Really? That’s the lesson they take away from this? Might this not be a good time to examine just what led to Phillips’ downfall and to draw some lessons from that? Or might this not be a good place to warn people against the dangers of the patriarchy movement? It seems not. [Read more...]

You Don’t Say, Mr. Farris? On Making Exemptions

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Baucham is one of the leaders of patriarchy movement that grew out of the Christian homeschooling movement. Indeed, Baucham was a close associate of Doug Phillips until recently. He has had ties to Vision Forum, speaking at their conferences and publishing his books with them. Baucham’s daughter Jasmine is a stay at home daughter who writes for Ladies Against Feminism, a website promoting biblical patriarchy. [Read more...]

Michael Farris Admits He Messed Up

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I actually think Farris means this. I actually think he realizes he should have spoken up sooner. Before these past few months, Farris has never spoken against what he here calls the “Patriarchy Movement,” and this is the first time he has done so this publicly. I think he hoped it would all just go away, but through his silence and through HSLDA’s continued promotion of Phillips and others he provided space for these ideologies to grow and thrive unchecked. [Read more...]

Michael Farris, Patriarchy, and Doug Phillips: An Expose


The article I linked yesterday quotes at length from Michael Farris’s reaction to Doug Phillips downfall. I thought it was worth going over that section specifically, and placing it within the context of other things I have written about Michael Farris, HSLDA, and Patrick Henry College, both to clarify the issues here and to reveal the serious dishonesty of Farris’s statements. [Read more...]

Doug Phillips: The Rest of the Story

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I’ve known the identity of the woman Phillips had his “affair” with for months now, but I haven’t felt comfortable sharing it because she I’ve felt that she deserves to have her identity protected if that’s what she wants. She is now suing Phillips, and has made her identity public. Her name is Lourdes Torres, and she served for years as maid and nanny in the Phillips home. [Read more...]

Jesus, Zeus, Persephone—and Fairies


“Mommy, what god to you believe in?” Sally asked me recently. “I don’t believe in any god, honey,” I told her. “But mom, you’re supposed to believe in a god!” Sally responded. “Uh, no, actually, people can choose what they want to believe,” I said. “Who told you that you’re supposed to believe in a god?” I asked. “No one,” she said. “I just knewed it.” [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: An Eclectic Assortment


My time has been tight lately, which has cut into the time I spend reading other blogs. From time to time I try to peruse what I’ve missed, and this morning I noticed a number of posts on Homeschoolers Anonymous that I felt I should share. From Ariel to unschooling to Fifty Shades of Grey and contemporary Christian music, make sure to click through! [Read more...]