Premarital Sex and Marital Problems

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I've written a lot about my parents decision to have us children court rather than date. From time to time I've seen readers express confusion as to why parents would reject for their children a process that worked for them. The truth is that my parents turned to courtship for my siblings and I because they believed that dating hadn't worked for them. I recently mentioned that I was conceived before my parents married. In other words, when my parents taught my siblings and I abstinence before … [Read more...]

Bullying Prevention

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The Parent Trap is on Netflix, so I watched it with Sally a few days ago. I enjoy showing her movies I remember watching as a kid myself. As we came to the part where Annie and Haley vandalize each other's cabins at camp in an escalating cycle of retribution, Sally rendered her judgement. "That's bullying," she said. "Where did you learn about bullying?" I asked her. "At my school," she said. "Bullying is not nice." I'd been told that schools were being more proactive about dealing … [Read more...]

The Children in the Sandbox

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Over the holidays I read a novel by Jodi Picoult. I enjoyed the book, but there was one passage that bugged me. In it a mother acts as narrator, and explains that we're all supposed to say there is no real difference between boys and girls, but that that is a "polite fiction." She says all you have to do is look into any sandbox at any park, and you'll see the girls preparing food and the boys smashing things with trucks. Except that this is not in fact my experience. Look, my son Bobby loves … [Read more...]

Mike Huckabee, Immigration, and Evangelical Compassion

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I haven't said anything about the tens of thousands of unaccompanied children entering the U.S. from the countries south of Mexico, but I've been following the story. I've never quite understood why American evangelicals are so anti-immigration and pro-borders. And I say this as someone who grew up in an evangelical family solidly involved in conservative politics. But border issues were never my thing. The first year I participated in homeschool speech and debate in high school, the topic was … [Read more...]

Why I Put My Son in Dresses

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So I recently came upon an article titled My Son Wears a Dress and That's OK with Me. In it, a father explains his two-year-old son's penchant for wearing dresses like his four-year-old older sister. Every morning my four-year-old daughter, Sydney, drags a chair into her closet and plucks a dress off of the rack. I try to lean her in other directions---“Why don’t we try shorts today?”---but Sydney’s stubborn. And I think she deserves the freedom to choose what she wants to wear. My … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Bullying Slumber Parties

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By Victoria Originally posted on Healing Victoria Strong The Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, p. 16 Remember how Dobson condoned bullying behavior from children yesterday? Well, now we shall see that Dobson raises his children to at least tolerate and possibly even perpetrate such awful behavior. It begins when his (at the time) fifth grade daughter has fourteen girls (classmates) over for a slumber party. “I met most of them (the daughter’s friends) for the first time that … [Read more...]

Oh Noes! Little Kids Might Learn Gay People Exist!

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So, I recently came upon a Family Research Council video from 2008. Yes, it's a bit dated, but I watched it anyway. The entire thing was Tony Perkins talking with parents of two young elementary school students (one in kindergarten, one in second grade) whose teachers used age-appropriate materials to teach children about gay and lesbian individuals as part of coursework on diversity. Perkins talked about how "confusing" it is for young children to be introduced to "homosexuality," and … [Read more...]


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