But What If Your Husband Tells You Not to Submit?

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When I write about submission, especially in the context of Debi Pearl's book, Created To Be His Help Meet, commenters frequently ask what Debi would say to a woman whose husband told her not to submit. I think we have our answer, or at least as close as we're going to get to an answer. It's an article by Debi's daughter Shoshanna Easling. My Dad was not the type of guy to check with you before he made a decision. We would be driving down the road when all of a sudden he would pull in to a … [Read more...]

Why I Never Went Trick-or-Treating as a Child

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Paul S. Taylor of Answers in Genesis is worried.While I would argue that Halloween has always been a dubious and anti-Christian festival, carefully observant parents have noticed that in recent years the godless nature of the event has increased and realize that even more caution is warranted. This problem has occurred hand-in-hand with the slide into godlessness generally associated with an evolutionary worldview, in which God is not central to our lives, and death and the occult are … [Read more...]

“If we had known you were going to be a writer . . . “

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I've seen people talk bloggers like me to task for airing our families' "dirty laundry." How could we do this to our parents, they wonder? Don't we realize how ungrateful we're being? Personally, my response is that I'm trying to help other parents avoid my parents' mistakes---in a sense, I'm trying to bring something good out of my parents' mistakes. If everyone was silent about their parents' mistakes, how would we identify overarching problems, patterns to avoid?This said, I just found an … [Read more...]

Why I Won’t Teach My Children That Religion Is Nonsense

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I was raised an evangelical Christian. I went through a time of questioning while in college and I ultimately found myself an atheist. The hardest part of my deconversion was the way my parents treated me as a result. My parents could not say “We disagree with you and think you are wrong, but you are entitled to your own beliefs and we respect that.” Instead, my entire relationship with my parents imploded over their belief that their beliefs and their beliefs alone were acceptable. In other wor … [Read more...]

Yes I Take My Poor Children Trick-or-Treating in Your Rich Neighborhood

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I know I'm late to the party, but I only just came upon that viral Dear Prudence letter about poor kids trick-or-treating in rich neighborhoods.Dear Prudence, I live in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in the country, but on one of the more “modest” streets—mostly doctors and lawyers and family business owners. (A few blocks away are billionaires, families with famous last names, media moguls, etc.) I have noticed that on Halloween, what seems like 75 percent of the trick-or-treaters a … [Read more...]

Closing the Fire Escape

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A few weeks ago, I discussed a chapter from one of Gothard's IBLP seminar textbooks titled "How To Build the Spirit of a Marriage." Today I want to come back to that chapter to discuss something often called "closing the fire escape." Here Gothard is discussing things a wife can do that damage a marriage. When she lacks a grateful spiritAn ungrateful wife is a public rebuke to her husband. By her spirit she communicates the message, "My husband does not know how to make me happy." U … [Read more...]

Counseling in the Hands of Emotionally Abusive Parents

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One summer home from college, my parents insisted that I meet with our pastor. I was questioning evangelicalism and exploring other Christian faith traditions, and my parents were very concerned about me. So they set up a meeting and sent me off. I could have refused, I suppose, but I was living with them and dependent on them for transportation, so I really wan't in a place to put up too much of a fuss. The meeting could have been a whole lot worse, and besides, it was just the one meeting. Mo … [Read more...]


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