About Libby Anne

Libby Anne grew up in a large evangelical homeschool family highly involved in the Christian Right. College turned her world upside down, and she is today an atheist, a feminist, and a progressive. She blogs about leaving religion, her experience with the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements, the detrimental effects of the "purity culture," the contradictions of conservative politics, and the importance of feminism.

More Thoughts on Teaching Consent to Young Children


"When I was at Brogan's house, I kissed him," five-year-old Sally told me recently."Okay. Where did you kiss him?" I asked, curious what sort of kiss she meant."On the back of the head, because he didn't want me to so he was moving all around.""Wait a minute, now---""When we go over to Brogan's house again, I will run and catch him and kiss him again!" Sally proclaimed excitedly."Sally, what should you do if someone doesn't want you to kiss them?" I asked."Just get him … [Read more...]

On Transgender Men and “Living Life As a Woman”


In my post earlier today, I wrote the following: If you are a non-transgender man, please understand that you have no experience living life as a woman. An exchange took place in the comments that is worth highlighting.First, reader Isaac had this to say:Re: Trans men having lived experience "as women"---I think this can be somewhat true, but it's an idea to apply carefully and lightly. Each trans man has a different experience in which he may experience more or less misogyny directed … [Read more...]

Introduce Yourself!


When I first started blogging, I never imagined I would end up creating a community. Most of my readers likely don't read the comments, but those who do read and engage here have created something beyond the blog itself. My comment sections have become a place of conversation and bonding, advice giving and camaraderie. If you're a regular here, or even if you're just a lurker, hop in and introduce yourself!And while you're at it, welcome our new mods, Petticoat Philosopher and AAAtheist! … [Read more...]

What to Do If Someone Calls You Sexist: A Short Primer


It has come to my attention that some people seem to view being called sexist as worse than the damage done by being sexist. (It has also come to my attention that many people don't know what sexism is.) This is all highly unfortunate, to say the least, but I think I can help. Without further ado, here is my short and dirty primer on what to do if someone calls you (or something you said or did) sexist.1. StopDo not respond to accusations of sexism with outrage or denial. Doing so sug … [Read more...]

“I am so, so sorry, Bobby”: On Apologies


I was sitting on the couch reading when I heard a sudden altercation in front of me, a yelp, and then Bobby was crying. "Sally, do you need to apologize?" I asked. I immediately regretted the question---I should have first asked what happened rather than jumping to conclusions. I'm not perfect. But Sally's response was immediate. "Yes mom, I do," she said genuinely. "What happened?" I asked. By this time I was holding Bobby on my lap, stroking his hair and trying to soothe him. He was still c … [Read more...]

“It’s like their brains time-travel back to 1952″


In the past, I've done what I've called "awesome comment award." I want to start doing something similar but more regular. I have a lot of readers who say many interesting things, and some of their comments call for a bit more spotlight.Today I want to highlight a comment by reader snowmentality, left last week on one of my posts, "What's Your Favorite Princess?"I love that Sally had the self-confidence to say "I don't have a favorite princess." At her age, I probably would have just nam … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What “Companionship” Means in Pearl World


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 279-80This passage is an interesting one---or at least, I found it so. Part of me wanted to like it, because Debi is talking about the importance of spouses being soul mates. But it seems our definition of "soul mates" differs, because what she describes is profoundly one-sided.She begins with a letter: When Two Become OneDear Friends in Christ,I am a minister. I recently listened to a tape a pastor recorded about a woman learning to honor and … [Read more...]