About Libby Anne

Libby Anne grew up in a large evangelical homeschool family highly involved in the Christian Right. College turned her world upside down, and she is today an atheist, a feminist, and a progressive. She blogs about leaving religion, her experience with the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements, the detrimental effects of the "purity culture," the contradictions of conservative politics, and the importance of feminism.

Richard Dawkins and Rape Rape

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I have a friend who was raped by a friend of hers---someone she had had sex with before. It's just that this time, she said no, she wasn't up for it at the moment, and he didn't stop. It wasn't "violent"---she basically disassociated and laid there in shock that this was happening to her. He was someone she had trusted. This experience led my friend into some risky behavior---she figured there wasn't any point in keeping herself safe, as there was no "safe"---and ultimately put her into therapy … [Read more...]

Both Children and Parents Are Demanding

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Sometimes, when we are on a road trip to visit relatives, we stop at a drive through on the way. Last week was one of those times. Then comes the flurry of passing out fries and figuring out whose shake is whose and everything that goes along with that---straws, napkins, ketchup, the works. Sean was driving and I was passing things every which way, the children and Sean simultaneously putting in bids for their food. I was on sensory overload and feeling frazzled and finally, in exasperation, I … [Read more...]

What If My Children Adopted My Parents’ Beliefs?

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Every so often, I get a comment like this on my blog: Dear Libby Anne,You state that you are an atheist. What would you do if one of your children choose the lifestyle your parents have---if he/she states that you are totally wrong in not believing in god? Would you support or accept his/ her choices? Would you feel betrayed in everything you taught them (e.g. critical thinking) because they don't think it to be the right way for them? What if he/she decides to leave the decision of family … [Read more...]

“And How Many Daddies?”

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I recently ran into my friend Amy and her son Joey when I was downtown for an event with my daughter Sally. Amy had a similar evangelical upbringing to mine, and is today happily married to her partner of fifteen years, Kate. Their son Joey is two. I've gotten together with Amy for lunch on occasion, and when we ran into each other again last week we repeated, again, that we should get out families together sometime---when we weren't so busy. I introduced Sally to Amy and Joey and then we parted … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Where Children Test Limits, Egads!

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By VictoriaOriginally posted on Saving Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, pp. 16-18A quick note on my wording: it was most cathartic to write this section sort of like it’s an open letter in part to Dobson and in part to my own parents, hence usually referring to parents with the pronoun “you”. I’m not at all speaking to the good parents out there.This next section begins by discussing the fact that children test limits. “They (children) will occasionally disobey … [Read more...]

Different Choices—Not a Betrayal

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It happened again today. Someone from back home asked me if Sally and Bobby were going to be followed by eleven more siblings. There's an expectation some have people---even among church people not in conservative homeschooling circles---that I will follow among my parents' footsteps and have a dozen or so children. They assume it's what I want, even though I never told them I wanted that and I've been grown up and away from home for close to ten years now. And when I say it's not, they are … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: It Is Acceptable to God

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 262-263 This is the last of Michael Pearl's section of Debi's book. In this section, remember, Debi's husband Michael is explaining, from the Bible, when there are exceptions from wifely obedience---and when there are not. This section is called "Enduring Suffering Wrongfully," and it's really, really bad. Michael begins by quoting I Peter 2:13-17.13 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as … [Read more...]


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