Women Over There Have It Worse!


As some of you may know, Bill Maher and Sam Harris have been criticizing Islam lately, with pushback from Reza Aslan and Ben Affleck, among others. For an interesting discussion of one of these conversations, see this post by Avicenna. Heck, if you want more reading, see this post with a video of Reza Aslan, this response on the Friendly Atheist, and Reza Aslan's recent piece in the New York Times. But in this post I want to touch on a very specific statement made by Sam Harris (during this seg … [Read more...]

Malala, Nobel Prize Winner and Muslim Feminist


Seventeen-year-old Malala Yousafzai has won the Nobel Peace Prize. Despite her youth, Malala Yousafzai has already fought for several years for the right of girls to education, and has shown by example that children and young people, too, can contribute to improving their own situations. This she has done under the most dangerous circumstances. Through her heroic struggle she has become a leading spokesperson for girls' rights to education. In the aftermath of this award, I have found an … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: A Young Wife Should Be “Bored and Lonely”


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 283-84In this passage Debi explains how marital bonding takes place. I hope you're ready, because it's bad. Early RootsThe seeds of bonding are planted early in the marriage. When a young wife gets bored and lonely being at home by herself, she spends her days preparing for her husband's return each evening, and she looks forward to their weekends together. She spends the lonely hours planning for him, cooking for him, cleaning for him, and eagerly … [Read more...]

The Old Schoolhouse: The New Homeschool Scandal


Right now my heart feels heavy. There are some days when I wonder if the world can actually be a good and happy place. I've written before about scandals in the Christian homeschooling movement and I've talked about the homeschool alumni reform movement of which I am a part. But some days, I just don't think it can get any worse.If you are a regular here, the name of the Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) is familiar to you, and that of Heidi St. John, one of the most popular s … [Read more...]

“Such! A! Flirt!”


This comment by reader onamission5 was left on "What's Your Favorite Princess?"At kindergarten orientation for one of my kids several years ago, one of the moms there, every time her son would so much as look at or try to speak to any female person young or old, would loudly exclaim for everyone to Look At What A Flirt he was and How Much He Likes Girls. It made the child obviously uncomfortable. It made everyone in the room obviously uncomfortable! He seemed more to me like a shy boy … [Read more...]

The Problems with Spanking a la Dobson

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The word "spanking" is used in so many different ways. Some use it to mean slapping a toddler's bottom or thigh for misbehavior in the moment, others use it to mean sending a child to their room for a paddling, and some use it to encompass essentially any physical violence. My parents practiced a sort of "ritualized spanking" a la Michael Pearl and James Dobson. Despite my parents' best intentions---and their care in following the rules laid out by these teachers---my experience was profoundly n … [Read more...]

The Lesbian Duplex 8: An Open Thread


This space is for conversation between commenters.* If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here. And so on. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. For those who are interested, I also try to have regular open posts specifically on children and parenting is … [Read more...]