Memories of My Father

Some of my readers have noticed that I rarely refer to being spanked by my father. To be honest, I actually cannot definitively remember being spanked by my father. As I've written before, my father and I were very close up to the point where my beliefs diverged from his. I was his golden girl, is special firstborn daughter. But he had this idea of what I was supposed to be like so firmly in his mind he couldn't handle it when I started diverging from that. At some point during my college years … [Read more...]


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“I Don’t Want a Girl Shovel!”

I was recently at an event for kids that at one point involved digging in a large sandbox. There were a number of shovels for the children to choose from, half pink with princesses on them and half red with Mickey Mouse on them. While my children were digging, a father with two boys, probably around four and two, came over to join us. The only remaining shovels were pink. The four-year-old boy threw an absolute fit, screaming that he would not use a girls shovel. There was so much contempt in … [Read more...]


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Homeschooling and Race

Over the last few weeks, I've had several people ask about homeschooling and race. First of all, yes, there are homeschooling families of color, including black homeschooling families who cite racism in the public school system as a reason for homeschooling. But overall, homeschoolers are more likely to be white than are other students. There are probably a variety of reasons for this.More specifically, though, I grew up in a homeschooling community that was fully white. I don't ever … [Read more...]


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Thanksgiving Stories and Traditions

For those of us in the U.S., today is Thanksgiving. For the majority of Americans, Thanksgiving is best summed up as a combination of family and food (and sometimes football). Today I want to open the floor for swapping stories and traditions.My mother used to put two kernels of corn on each plate, and remind us that the winter after the first Thanksgiving was actually one of starvation for the pilgrims, the result of the added load of a shipload unexpected newcomers. She used the kernels and … [Read more...]


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“The reason was ‘sex might happen'”

I appreciated this recent comment by reader smrynda:I got a real world look at something like purity culture when a friend of mine decided to try to meet guys online. She went on a date with a self-professed evangelical Christian and then afterwards, he made a big point that he would not go into her residence. The reason was 'sex might happen.' She said she was totally not having sex with him, but his reason was 'I trust you but not met.' So my friend asked him, 'are you admitting you are … [Read more...]


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Missouri Musings

I first received news of the grand jury decision in Missouri Monday night from my Facebook feed. It was a status update only two words long:I knew what had happened immediately, and my stomach turned over. I opened twitter and began reading what was posted under #Ferguson, paying special attention to updates by people of color and those on the ground, including @Nettaaaaaaaa, @deray, @drgoddess, @WyzeChef. I learned of massive police action, and of rioting. As the grand jury report came … [Read more...]


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When Unassisted Home Births Go Wrong

I am not opposed to home birth, but I am absolutely opposed to unassisted home births. I recently came upon an article full of screenshots from unassisted home birth forums, and what I saw didn't exactly reassure me. But this wasn't my first introduction to unassisted home births.Around a year ago I read an article by a woman who described going into labor completely alone while her children slept. She wrote about how empowering it was as a woman to birth her child completely and totally … [Read more...]


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