SMM: Chapter 2—What Daughters Have Been Missing

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A Guest Post by KateOriginally posted Time To Live, Friend.In this chapter we learn that fathers are supposed to be our best friend and confidant! “Our fathers are supposed to be dear, trusted confidantes and friends….our knights in shining armor, our protectors, our guardians, and they are even supposed to represent God to us” (17). I’m just not even sure how to start responding to this. Confidante and friend? Knight in Shining Armor? God to us? Where does it say that in the bible? Oh rig … [Read more...]

What Do the Words Mean?

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My little Sally thinks quite a bit of herself. "I'm the smartest person ever," she'll tell me. And she'll tell others, too. I tell you this as a prelude to a conversation I had with one of my teenage sisters. Me: "There's one thing I haven't figured out how to teach Sally yet, and that's modesty."Her: "I know, earlier she was sitting on that bench over there, and her legs were all sprawled out!"Me: "Um . . . no. Actually, I meant modesty as in not being full of yourself." I've been out … [Read more...]

The Homeschool Environment (with Images)

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This little homeschool girl and her family live off the grid.As I looked at the image above the first time I came upon it, one thing I thought about is how much the homeschool environment varies from family to family. No two homeschool families are alike, and some homeschool situations, yes, are like the one in the image above.But others are like this one:Or like this one:Or like this one:Or like this one:Or like this one:I'm not sure that there r … [Read more...]

Kings, Queens, Spheres, and Kingdoms

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I remember being over at a friend's house when her dad called to say he was on his way home. My friend's mom immediately went into motion: "The king is coming, the king is coming! Quick guys, clean up, make everything ready, the king is coming!" I also have memories of my mother saying that my father was the king, but she was the queen. Even Debi Pearl herself has used the king/queen husband/wife motif inCreated To Be His Help Meet.But a recent commenter drew attention to something … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Surrendering Your Autonomy To Another

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 136---37Sometimes Debi misinterprets Bible passages, and badly. More often, though, she simply adds things, brazenly, and without even offering any of her twisted scriptures to back them up. This wouldn't be such a problem except that evangelicals and fundamentalists make a big deal of adhering to the Bible and the Bible alone, condemning mainline Christians for adding to the Bible. God created Adam, and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. … [Read more...]

The Harlot v. the Godly Woman

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I just ran upon this image on facebook. It is from the website Dan's Pulpit, and compares the "Harlot" to the "Godly Woman." Have a look:I was going to get all in depth examining all of the implications and issues involved here, but then I found myself short on time and thought instead I'd hand it over to you all to dissect. So, what do you think? What all is going on with this sort of contrast? If you spent time as an evangelical or fundamentalist, how have you seen this contrast … [Read more...]

A Twisted Father/Daughter Relationship

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There is nothing wrong with arguing that a strong father/daughter relationship is important---if, that is, you're also arguing that strong parent/child relationships in general are important. But there's something weird when you elevate the father/daughter relationship above these others and start arguing that fathers and daughters should find in each other what they would otherwise go looking for in sexual and romantic relationships.Voddie Baucham says that middle aged men should turn to … [Read more...]


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