“So What Do You Do?”

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Several weeks ago I introduced myself to the mother of one of the children at Sally’s preschool. “So what do you do?” I asked her after we exchanged names. We went on to talk about our respective careers, but this exchange brought my mind back to an exchange I had years ago when my mother tried to explain why retirement was being so hard for my grandfather.“The first question men ask after they meet each other is ‘what do you do?’” she told me. “And once they’ve retired, that’s gone.” For women … [Read more...]

The Bizarre Libertarian/Christian Reconstructionist Alliance

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Ron Paul has just announced a new K-12 curriculum for homeschooled students---The Ron Paul Curriculum. It is comprehensive---history, economics, math, science, literature, Bible---and focuses on the "biblical principle" of self responsibility and the history of liberty. It advertises itself as incredibly academically rigorous---such that a student who makes it through will test out of the first two years of college.All of this honestly sounds like standard fare for these circles---not unlike … [Read more...]

Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology

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While I talk a lot about my background here on the blog, I generally maintain some level of distance. Today I want to narrow that distance by sharing an email from a young woman who was a good friend of mine growing up. We'll call her Kate. Her email reduced me to tears and reveals a lot about just how this sort of culture functions---and about how and why shunning occurs.Kate was a good bit younger than I but was one of my closest friends during my high school years. She was homeschooled … [Read more...]

Why I’m a Feminist First

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Remember when I asked which you would find more rage inducing---a patriarchal atheist or a patriarchal Christian? Well, I have a bit of an update. In that very short post---more a conversation starter than a post, really---I offered this quote from a male atheist named Jesse Powell: When I look at the relentlessly deteriorating family situation so obvious in the world around us today my conclusion regarding the source of this disaster is that American family life is being destroyed because of … [Read more...]

The Three Weavers, part VI: Alternative Endings

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At the end of my series on the sexual purity morality tale, The Three Weavers (part I, part II, part III, part IV, part V), a number of readers offered alternate endings. I enjoyed these so thoroughly I wanted to bring them together here as a sort of epilogue. Feel free to add your own additional alternate endings in the comment section!If you haven't read the story, here's a quick summary. Three weavers, Herthold, Hubert, and Hildgardmar, each had a daughter, Hertha, Huberta, and Hil … [Read more...]

Ticking Time Bombs of Atomic Hormones

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I've written a lot about my experiences being raised in what I call "the purity culture"---evangelicalism's obsession with the virginity and sexual ignorance of its young, an obsession that manifests itself in purity rings, purity balls, modesty teachings, and the rejection of dating. Some readers have asked what it's like for males growing up in the purity culture, and I've had to say that while I could guess, I honestly didn't know. Most of those speaking out against the purity culture have … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi’s Abuse Meter Is Broken

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 92Here we come to the end of Debi's discussion of the three types of men she lays out---Command Man, Mr. Visionary, Mr. Steady. In this summary section, Debi compares the actions that the "Ruination Wife" can take to destroy a marriage to each of the three types with the actions the "Successful Wife" can take to heal a marriage to each of the three types. Let's take a look:The Command Man The wife of Mr. Command Man can ruin her marriage by failing to h … [Read more...]


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