A Living Disappointment


My mom has been doing a good job keeping just how disappointed she is in me and in my life choices to herself these days. A couple of years ago she went all out and left me in tears, wanting to curl into a ball, and ultimately in therapy. These days, she just purses her lips. Usually. Recently, though, we had a conversation in which she confirmed what a huge disappointment she views me as. It's not that I didn't know, but it's hard to hear said.To my mother, I am a living disappointment. You … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: What Saith the Scriptures? (Yes, it’s THOSE Scriptures)


By AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 143---145Today we're discussing the Bible verses that back up what Michael teaches. Honestly, I'm not too excited about this section. Once, my husband's ex-coworker (and ex-best friend, now), and I had a disagreement. I had a problem with my husband going to his house for a game day with a whole bunch of guys. I had a lot of reasons (I was mentally unstable at that point, the wives were literally expected to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wives, Cover for Your Husbands

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 214---215This week we begin Debi's chapter on being "Good," which is the next character trait listed in Titus :4-5. The Crown"A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones" (Proverbs 12:4).A good woman is a crown to her husband. She can make a mediocre man be as honored as one wearing a crown. This is a really good summary of this passage. The entire point is that by being "good" the woman can … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Understanding Your Woman’s Motivation


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom Mormon.Created To Need A Help Meet, pp. 139-142If you are anything like me, you read the title of this chapter and stopped, did a double take, and then you jaw dropped. Did you re-read the title, just to make sure you got it right? Because I sure did. But it's true. This chapter is about the three kinds of women. Yes, Michael allows that women have personalities. But, of course, the point of learning about women's personalities is to figure out … [Read more...]

You Don’t Write Your Kids’ Lives (They Do)


Good gracious, I just came upon a Babble article titled Jessa Duggar Will Have a Chaste Courtship---And My Kids Will, Too. With all due respect, author Kacy Faulconer has no idea whether or not her children will have "chaste courtships." My parents said their children would have chaste courtships too, and guess what? I didn't! Kacy can give her children whatever advice she chooses, but ultimately, once they're adults, she cannot control their choices.I talk a lot here on the blog about the … [Read more...]

Respecting Every BODY

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Today I was pushing Bobby on the swing at the park. Each time his swing came toward me, I reached forward and tickled him. He responded by smiling and laughing, leaning forward and grinning at me. Each time as he came toward me he became excited, anticipating my tickles. Then something changed. Bobby still laughed when I ticked him as he came toward me, but he did so in a forced, annoyed way, and he leaned away from my touch. He managed to get out an "uh-uh" in the midst of his laughter. And so … [Read more...]

The Totally Unoriginal Atheist Case against Abortion

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The Friendly Atheist created quite the brouhaha lately by publishing a guest post by Kristine Kruszelnicki, president of Pro-Life Humanists. This post was titled "Yes, There Are Pro-Life Atheists Out There. Here's Why I'm One of Them." My response? Thank you, Captain Obvious.No seriously. Are there really people who think that atheists can't be against abortion?  I do not understand this reasoning. Is there supposed to be a litmus test, that if you're an atheist you're automatic and by d … [Read more...]