“Would you like me to hold you while you cry?”

Mother comforting her crying little girl

I knew the moment I saw Sally's face that there was going to be a problem. Her face was crumpling, and I knew tears wouldn't be far behind. Sally had just finished her dance class. Her teacher had just given her and her classmates each a certificate of participation, but one girl, who had fulfilled all the requirements and was ready to move up to the next class, got a ribbon. And Sally didn't. And in Sally's four-year-old mind, this was a disaster.The tears flowed freely as we walked out to … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Anger Management, Pearl Style

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To Train Up A Child, pp.And here we begin the chapter titled "Parental Anger." NO MORE CHANCESAs I was working on this book, a young mother said to me: "I get so angry sometimes; I treat the children so badly. They just upset me. Johnny is always picking on Mary and making her whine. I have to just stay on top of them all the time to prevent them from doing something they shouldn't. What can I do to overcome my anger?"Previously, the parents rewarded disobedience by saying, "Now … [Read more...]

Pulling the Victoria’s Secret Dance


Fundamentalist and conservative evangelical Christianity is weird. Women are taught to dress modestly in public, to stay away from pornography or premarital sex, etc. Prostitutes and strippers are derided, along with everyone who dresses "like a whore" (i.e. less modestly than they're supposed to). But in private, within marriage? Women are expected to perform. They have to somehow go from reserved modesty to being, well, a man's personal supermodel.Take this blog comment, for instance: I … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Courtship Story, Part 6: The Countdown


A Guest Post by MelissaOriginally posted on Permission to LiveNote: I’m reposting Melissa’s series, originally written in February 2011, with her permission. Why now? Put simply, because it was one of the first things that came to my mind when I heard about Jessa Duggar courting. This is something I wish she could read. This is for Jessa. For all the posts in this series, click here.  Hunk and I and our parents set the wedding date that same night. He was going to graduate school … [Read more...]

Can We Not Tell Gay Christians What To Do Please?

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The Friendly Atheist recently posted an article written by guest blogger Camille. The title was "Gay Christians Shouldn't Just Leave the Church; They Should Leave the Faith." Camille starts by discussing a fictional interview between Pastor Stanton Jones and a gay man named Todd, in which Stanton tells Todd that he should admit his sexual struggles to his evangelical church and ask them to support him in his quest to remain chaste. Camille then turns to a response by fellow Patheos blogger Tony … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: If Your Wife’s Not Fulfilled, Who Cares?


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 66---69Last post, Michael started his analysis the three types of men.  According to the Pearl's, God created 3 types of guys to reflect different aspects of his (trinitarian) personality.  Men are either Command men (like God the Father), Steady Men (like Jesus Christ), or Visionary Men (Like the Prophet Holy Spirit). ObservationAll of creation comes in threes.  There are three dimensions an … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “Sexual Perversions”

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 174This brief section---only one page---is titled "Exceptions: Sexual Perversions." This is the very end of Debi's chapter on loving your husband (which is, of course, all about sex), and it's what you've all been waiting for. Let's take a look. Anal sex is a homosexual act, and no normal man or woman desires this. The use of pornography has increased this abomination. It is a filthy practice and medically dangerous. Oh, well, that didn't take long.For … [Read more...]