Evangelicals Are the Ones Obsessed with Sex

My sister approached me, years ago, asking me if I didn’t think that early marriage (say, age 18, 19) was perhaps a good idea, because waiting to have sex until marriage was otherwise so difficult and impractical. At the time, I rather agreed with her—it made sense. Today, all I can think about are the negative consequences of this obsession with sex and love affair with abstinence.

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No, That’s Not Why Confederate Statues Are Being Removed

This isn’t about Lee being a slaveholder. It’s about his role in an armed rebellion to protect the institution of human slavery, and the role erecting statutes of Lee played in commemorating a society built upon white supremacy. But Wilson, the literal author of literal logic textbooks, apparently could not be bothered to look this up before posting his mockery.

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Lesbian Duplex 122: An Open Thread

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post.

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Saturday Link Love: Tulsi Gabbard, Mothers of Iceland, and Child Marriage

Saturday Link Love is a feature where I collect and post links to various articles I’ve come upon over the past week. Feel free to share any interesting articles you’ve come along as well! The more the merrier.

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Voice in the Wind: Julia, Hadassah, and the Emotionally Abusive Men

No, realizing that you prefer sex with a willing partner to sex with a crying partner is not the same as putting another’s feelings above your own. Really? Really? This is how low we’re holding the bar?

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Cultures of Violence Die Hard

Ingraham’s “most Montana men” comment presents reporting a crime to the authorities as something only a wuss would do. It’s unclear whether she thinks Jacobs should have slugged Pianoforte in return, or whether she thinks Jacobs should have crept off in shame, duly beaten, but in either case the way she approaches the situation reflects toxic ideas about masculinity.

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Protest Peacefully—But Not Like That!

We don’t live in a fascist state. We don’t live in a dictatorship. We don’t live under martial law. Disagreeing with and protesting politicians in elected office is a thing we are allowed to do. In fact, the last time I checked, it was a thing we were encouraged to do. Civic engagement, right? Isn’t it Graham’s generation that is constantly complaining that millennials aren’t sufficiently engaged in the political process?

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“You can’t be pro-life, but then refuse to support the girl that keeps her baby”

Those who advocate against abortion rights refer to themselves as pro-life, but, as Runkles’ situation makes clear, their opposition to premarital sex places limits in their ability to celebrate life. We can imagine a group that opposes abortion on the grounds that life is always better than not-life, but why would such a group limit or stigmatize the act that creates such life? For abortion opponents, it’s frequently not so much about life as it is about rules—and the consequences of not following them.

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What Do Atheists Do All Day?

Many people who don’t believe in God also don’t give a whit about atheist figureheads. Atheism is not a church, with members and theology and an authority structure. It’s not a belief system, and it has no dogma. There are conservative atheists and progressive atheists, anti-abortion atheists and pro-choice atheists, feminist atheists and misogynist atheists—the list goes on and on.

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Evangelicals’ Sexual Double Bind

In some sense, evangelicals’ approach to sex is caught in a double bind. If they must forbid sex before marriage, evangelicals are stuck either arguing that marital sex will be (or should be) mind-blowingly amazing (and denying the existence of sexual incompatibility) or acknowledging that marital sex may suck (while contending that sexual fulfillment within marriage is not actually important).

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