Convention on the Rights of the Child, Articles 6-10: The Child’s Right to Know and Be Cared for by Their Parents

The framing issues here are fascinating. The CRC argues that children have a right to be raised by their parents, barring extenuating circumstances like abuse or neglect. Farris et al. frame this right as belonging primarily to parents—i.e., that a frivolous removal of a child by child protective services is a violation of the parent’s fundamental right to raise their child. In other words, both the writers of the CRC and Farris believe removing children from their parents without reason is a violation of someone’s rights—but while the CRC sees it as a violation of children’s rights, Farris sees it as a violation of parents’ rights. Read more

Monogamy Isn’t Biblical, It’s Roman

I don’t have a problem with people arguing that Christians should be monogamous, or finding ways to interpret the bible to support monogamy. I do, however, have a problem with Christians arguing that something is transparently obviously and unquestioningly biblical when it is anything but. Go ahead and form your own interpretation—but please, oh please, don’t claim the Bible is “clear” on an issue when it’s obviously more complicated than that. Read more

The Radical Notion that Children Can Have Anxiety Too

By Samantha. What has stuck with me about this particular conversation is the reaction I got: it had never occurred to these moms to wonder if their kids might be struggling with anxiety– social anxiety or otherwise. These moms are wonderful, loving people. They adore their kids. They’re responsible parents. And yet, “maybe he doesn’t like XYZ because he has anxiety” just wasn’t an option they’d considered. Read more

I Co-sleep, But: Some Thoughts on Attachment Parenting

Dr. Sears, who is widely known as the founder of AP, says he’s never seen a child raised on AP go wrong—that children raised this way are as a rule nicer, more compassionate, and on and on. I’ve seen this sort of promise before—from Michael Pearl. I am not saying that I put their parenting teachings in the same category—I most emphatically do not. It’s just that I don’t think these sorts of promises are ever realistic. Children are wild cards, and while parents certainly have some influence they don’t have the ability to definitively determine how their children turn out. Any time anyone makes this sort of promise, I get red flags. Read more

Anonymous Tip: In Which Gwen Lies to Casey

This seems like a really bad idea. Why would you make a promise you can’t keep? How is that not obviously a bad idea? Gwen knows that if the hearing goes against her, Casey will be removed from her, for a week for observation. I get not wanting to tell a four-year-old that when it’s not sure that it’s going to happen, but that’s not what’s going on here. Instead, Gwen is lying to Casey. Read more

How We Disagree

Disagreeing with people on deeply-held beliefs and ideas is difficult, especially when each side believes the other is causing harm, and I get that. But I have to believe there is a better way to do so than I’ve seen in too many internet discussions, whether here or elsewhere. Read more

Convention on the Rights of the Child: Articles 1-5

What’s my main takeaway from this section? Well, besides the emphasis on not discriminating against a child based on gender, race, or other factors, I was especially struck by the focus on both the best interest of the child standard and the idea that parents have rights and duties. If you listen to HSLDA’s rhetoric, you’d think the second focus was entirely absent from the CRC, but it’s pretty clearly not. Read more

When Demons Are Real

I struggled with fear of demons my entire childhood. I would lay awake in bed with my eyes clenched shut, afraid that if I opened them I would see a demon at the foot of my bed—demons, after all, could make themselves visible to the human eye if they so chose. I was afraid I would invite a demon to attack me by thinking the wrong thoughts, and fearfully tried to keep my mind away from anything that might seem like an invitation. Read more

The Lesbian Duplex 13: An Open Thread

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. I’ve added a “chatter” tab under my blog banner that will direct readers to… Read more

Beyond Civility

I suspect we often turn to expletives, personal attacks, and strawmen as a sort of shorthand when finding more accurate language seems like too much effort. I would argue that that taking the time to compose that more accurate language is both useful and effective. We can do better than the cesspools at the corners of the internet. Let’s hold ourselves to a higher standard. Read more

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