The “United” Front?

One of the first parenting blogs I read was Dulce de Leche. Dulce also grew up homeschooled and had a similar transformation to my own. Her children are some years older than my own, and reading her positive parenting posts were transformative to me as a new and questioning mother. Since those early years, Dulce and I have become friends, and we now message each other now and again about this or that, and watch each other's children grow.Anyway, I've been wanting to write for a while about … [Read more...]


I suppose I should have expected this when I posted several days ago about seeing an offensive sexist shirt at my local YMCA. Some MRAs descended on the post's comment thread and everything went downhill from there. It's worth taking a moment to do some housekeeping and lay down a few ground rules.First, do not flag comments frivolously. If a commenter violates my comment policy, please inform them that they have done so and that further violations will be flagged and could lead to banning. … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship

So I'm going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard's Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled "Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship" (pages 160---164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific "phases."Gothard uses the story of Ruth and Boaz to illustrate his seven phases, holding their story up as an example of a godly courtship. This seems odd, given that their story was a bit of a special circumstance. (If … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Speak No Evil of Anyone, Ever

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 238---240This section, titled "Another Kind of Anger," is kind of all over the place. Remember that last week Debi told her readers that men are prone to sudden anger and that wives should take care not to provoke that anger in their husbands, and not to let it bother them when their husbands go off on them. In this section, Debi deals with what she calls "bitter" anger. However, as we shall see, this section is a bit confusing as she goes back and forth … [Read more...]

This Happened Today

This morning I asked the staff member at my local YMCA's front desk about whether the facility had a policy on wearing clothing with sexist messages.I didn't expect to find myself there, asking that question.It started out as a normal day at the Y. I lifted some weights and then walked to the drinking fountain. And there, in front of me, was a man. All I could see was the back of his shirt. I wish I had taken a picture, but I didn't have my iPhone on me and besides, I didn't want to … [Read more...]

Not All Homeschoolers Are Religious (but Many Are)

NCES reasons for homeschooling 2011

Sometimes I feel like I have to play this thing from both sides.When I and other bloggers talk about some of the problems in the conservative Christian homeschooling subculture, we are informed by secular homeschool parents that not all homeschoolers are religious, and in fact that religious homeschoolers are just a minority today and not really a problem to be worried about. Well yes, we know that not all homeschoolers are religious. However, it's simple fact that many---perhaps even the … [Read more...]

What’s it take to get kicked out of homeschool prom?

I'm sure you've already read about this, but my friend Hannah Ettinger's sister Clare was recently kicked out of her homeschool prom this past weekend even though her dress met the dress code requirements. Why was she kicked out? Because the homeschool fathers stationed on a balcony above the dance floor determined that her dress would make their sons lust after her and therefore asked the organizers to make her leave.When Hannah posted her sister's story as a guest post Sunday, I doubt … [Read more...]