TTUAC: Police State


To Train Up A Child, chapter 9, part 2We are still in the chapter titled "Training Examples." As I promised last week, I want to try to bring a specific theme out in each post as I cover this section. This week's theme is creating a police state in your own home. THE LITTLE FOXES SPOIL THE VINESWe just returned from having supper with some good neighbors. They are a fine young couple who are just beginning their family. They are kind parents, concerned to rear their children properly. … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: What Command Wives Want


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, p. 125Today we finish up the chapter on Command Men. Like the previous 2 chapters, Michael ends this chapter with a wish list from the wives of Mr. C's. It's a short little section, Ladies' Wish ListJulie writes: "You ask for a wish list. Here's mine:I wish my husband would be more patient, less irritable, and more gentle with me and the children.This is a logical wish. Honestly, I'm sure sometimes … [Read more...]

The Duggars and Bill Gothard’s Sex Regulations


It's Valentine's Day, the Duggars have offered some tips for keeping the sexy going. Most of the tips are fairly conventional---things like date night and keeping romance alive---but the first two tips are different. What struck me about them is that they cannot be understood outside of the cultural context I write about here so often.Here's the first one tip: 1. Say yes to sex, even when you're tired. Michelle says a friend gave her advice to live by before she and Jim Bob married in 1984: … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Stay at Home or Your Child Will Be Molested


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 208---209Debi is really good at scaring women into doing just as she says. Have you noticed that? If you don't submit to your husband and have sex with him any time he asks . . . you will end up divorced and living in a dumpy duplex. And so on. Well, this week we begin the chapter titled "Keepers at Home." And according to Debi, if you are a mother and don't stay home with your children as commanded by God, well, there will be consequences. Scary … [Read more...]

“They said if you report it, you hurt the body of Christ”


You may have heard that Bob Jones University has fired GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment). Everyone is wondering why, but it's not hard to guess. GRACE was due to release its report on Bob Jones University's handling of sex abuse and rape next month. This incident is just one more in a burgeoning series of evangelical sex and abuse scandals. GRACE was founded by Boz Tchividjian, who is a grandson of Billy Graham and a professor at Liberty University. With these … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard: When People Know . . . and Do Nothing

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I'll be honest: I'm more than a little bit upset right now. I think it's because I'm finally realizing the full impact of the growing Bill Gothard sexual abuse scandal. The real scandal is not that Bill Gothard sexually abused the young women placed under his authority. The real scandal is that it could go on for so many decades while leader after leader covered for him. This is the extent of the rot---that so many people knew what was going on and did nothing, including those who should have … [Read more...]

“But you look so young!”

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"You have two children?" my colleague exclaimed, "But you look so young!" By the standards of my left-leaning town, I am a very young mother. As a result, I get this sort of thing a lot. Usually I try to explain about how yes, I am a young mother, but I had unusual circumstances, or that it was a good thing because it meant I wouldn't go on the job market with pregnancy and babies still ahead of me when I finish my graduate degree. This time, though, I decided to try something … [Read more...]