“They said if you report it, you hurt the body of Christ”


You may have heard that Bob Jones University has fired GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment). Everyone is wondering why, but it's not hard to guess. GRACE was due to release its report on Bob Jones University's handling of sex abuse and rape next month. This incident is just one more in a burgeoning series of evangelical sex and abuse scandals. GRACE was founded by Boz Tchividjian, who is a grandson of Billy Graham and a professor at Liberty University. With these … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard: When People Know . . . and Do Nothing

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I'll be honest: I'm more than a little bit upset right now. I think it's because I'm finally realizing the full impact of the growing Bill Gothard sexual abuse scandal. The real scandal is not that Bill Gothard sexually abused the young women placed under his authority. The real scandal is that it could go on for so many decades while leader after leader covered for him. This is the extent of the rot---that so many people knew what was going on and did nothing, including those who should have … [Read more...]

“But you look so young!”

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"You have two children?" my colleague exclaimed, "But you look so young!" By the standards of my left-leaning town, I am a very young mother. As a result, I get this sort of thing a lot. Usually I try to explain about how yes, I am a young mother, but I had unusual circumstances, or that it was a good thing because it meant I wouldn't go on the job market with pregnancy and babies still ahead of me when I finish my graduate degree. This time, though, I decided to try something … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Silly Women Like Dominant Leaders


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need a Help Meet, pp. 123---125We are now in the section where Michael offers his points to ponder. This is where he basically sums up the chapter into concise little bites. Proffered Points to Ponder* Mr. Command will be very objective and unemotional, and he will not enjoy small talk. His vision is like a man looking from a high mountain: he sees the distant goal. Mr. Command will want to talk about his plans, ideas, and fi … [Read more...]

And Then She Called Me “Libby”

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Over the holidays my preschool age daughter Sally started calling me Libby. For a couple of days, it was all she used to address me. "Libby, can you get me a drink of milk?" "Libby, can I have a snack?" "Libby, is it okay if I go play in the basement?" I think I can now understand why some parents go by their first names with their children. There is definitely something leveling about it.Sally has long occasionally called Sean and I by our first names. For instance, I'd say "Sally, could … [Read more...]

TTUAC: The Bigger Bully


To Train Up a Child, chapter 9, part 1This chapter is titled Training Examples. It's a longer chapter, so I'll be going through it in several pieces. Because Michael's stories can get repetitive, I'm going to try to draw a specific theme out of each section. For this section, I want to focus on the utter lack of any attempt to actually understand what is going on in the child's head or the child's needs, and the automatic interpreting of the child's actions as "bullying"---even if the child … [Read more...]

The Biased . . . and the Confused

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I was poking around pro-life responses to the declining abortion rate when I found this Catholic Online article. According to the Guttmacher Institute, there were less than 17 abortions for every 1,000 women in 2011. The figure is down approximately 13% from 2008, and nearly half of what it was in 1980 when the greatest number of abortions were recorded at almost 30 per 1,000 women. . . .Unfortunately, the Guttmacher Institute has a glaring anti-life agenda. The Institute is infamously … [Read more...]