CTNAHM: Move Away From Your Inlaws—They’ll Contaminate Your Wife

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 87---88Today we finish out the chapter on Visionary Men. Mr. Visionary's Five L'sListen Love Laugh Labor LeaveListen: Be willing to stop your dreams long enough to hear your wife's concerns. At her urging, seek counsel from another man of wisdom-a Steady Man, but not another Visionary. That's good advice. Men, listen to your wife! Though I disagree that one's wife has to urge … [Read more...]

Let’s Not Willfully Misrepresent Our Opponents


I'm tired of both the right and the left demonizing their opponents and willfully misunderstanding and misconstruing their arguments. Really. Freaking. Tired. [Edit: I originally offered several examples here, including one referring to "right-wing filth," one hypothesizing about whether or not a right-wing politician's face was "permanently stuck" in a whine, and two comments hypothesizing that pro-lifers would feel "smug satisfaction" if women who cannot afford a pregnancy were to start … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Esther and Her Mother

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 182---183We're still in the chapter on loving your children. Remember, Debi has told women to love their children by loving their husbands, and to love their children by not concentrating too much on loving Jesus. Now, for the first time, we actually turn to loving the children themselves. "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6).God has honored mothers with the blessed privilege of being … [Read more...]

My Father, an Enigma


"Libby, you could be an engineer. You have the mind for it."My dad made this comment while we were in the car, driving by a factory of some sort. I was probably around sixteen. My dad's comment was completely offhand, and I didn't bother to respond. Inside, though, I was baffled. Why would my dad suggest such a thing? Didn't he realize that my lot in life, the lot God had designed for me, was to be a homemaker, raising children, caring for my husband, and tending the home? Couldn't he see … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Your Woman Should Be Glad to Put Up With Your Eccentric Ways


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 84---86We are nearing the close of the Visionary man chapter. I hope you've learned a lot. This section is Michael summing up the main points from the chapter. Exhortation to VisionariesDon't let your drive drive her away. Demonstrate a soundness of judgement by first meeting the needs of the family, and then when you share your daring vision with her she will have the emotional energy to d … [Read more...]

When God Took a Journey in a Cave


We were walking to the car one night when Sally commented on the stars."Do you what makes them stay up there?" I asked her."God put them there!" Sally exclaimed."Who is God?" This was the first time I'd heard her use the term."God is Jesus," she replied."But what is God?""Mom!" Sally exclaimed. "God is just his name! He has two names, God and Jesus!""Well, then how did he put the stars in the sky?""I will tell you the story," Sally responded with a smile, and her … [Read more...]

I’m Not Angry Anymore


I used to be angry at my parents. As regular readers will know, when I started forging my own way while in college my parents responded in a way that completely ruined our relationship and sent me into therapy. They caused me incredible pain and treated me in ways no parent should treat their newly adult child. They forced me to choose between my family and my freedom. And for a while, I was angry---and I had good right to be angry! But I'm not angry anymore.People are fallible, and my … [Read more...]