CTNAHM: How Dominant Wives Destroy Daughters

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 102---104Well, we are in for a treat today! Having spent the last few weeks talking about Mr. Steady, now we are talking about the horrors that come from dominant mothers. Specifically, how mothers that are in control screw up the chances for daughters to get married. As an added bonus, Michael attempts to use cool-kid phrasing. I hope you're ready. Dominant Mamas and Dawdling DaddiesWe … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Can’t Take Criticism (Ever)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 194---195This intro matter confuses me a bit. The Skinny SwineLack of Judgement"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Proverbs 14:1). "A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquiries concerning his will." The skinny woman who inspired this next list of questions doubtless saw herself as a kind person, wonderful mother, and f … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: XBOX Will Steal Your Children’s Souls!

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 101---102We are still in the sections where Michael talks about the downside of being a Mr. Steady. Today we are discussing the biggest sin Mr. Steady makes. Here's a hint: It's being Steady in any way except for working to support or "teach" his family. Mr. Steady's Most Damning SinSome Steady Men who lack a vision, and therefore lack motivation, will eat too much, sleep too much, and watch … [Read more...]

Live Every Moment


Do you know what has been most surprising to me of all about adulthood? How fast time moves. For example, today is Christmas, and I don't remember once having that "oh my goodness I can't wait Christmas is taking forever to come" feeling. No, I only had the "what wait is Christmas really that soon I'm not ready for it yet" feeling. Sally, of course, felt differently, as I did at her age.I've realized more and more that every day I live is a day I will never get back. Every evening is an … [Read more...]

It Matters Too Much Not to Speak


It may or may not surprise regular readers to hear this, but I have never pushed back against my parents' homophobia. And it's not that it doesn't come up, it does. When it does I don't participate. Instead, I just sit in silence. But I can't justify doing that anymore. I can no longer remain silent.My former coworker Dave was sixteen when he attempted to take his life, ten years ago. He grew up in a Baptist home in a family very involved in church activities, and he could not reconcile his … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Children Want To Be Beaten


To Train Up A Child, chapter 5, part 3So, a number of you have noted that Michael is emphasizing that "the rod" is necessary because God said so, period, and has not been arguing that it is necessarily because it is actually good for the child. I've held back from answering this charge because I knew Michael would answer it soon enough. This week we begin to see Michael explain why the rod is absolutely inescapably a positive good for the child---and in fact, that children actually want to … [Read more...]

Must We Do This Again? Duck Dynasty Edition

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By now you have likely heard that Phil Robertson, star of the Duck Dynasty reality TV show, has been suspended by A&E for making homophobic and racist comments in an interview with GQ. Samantha covers all of this in her blog post, "I used to be a homophobic racist too." And if you're like me and you are facebook friends with conservative evangelical or fundamentalist friends or relatives, you  have probably noticed the quick proliferation of defenses of Robertson's comments. But rather than … [Read more...]