We Can’t Afford to Let This Become the New Normal

Frankly, I’m worried. We cannot afford to treat this as politics as usual. Our rhetoric is shifting. It is now politically acceptable to call for a 30-ft border wall with Mexico, the explosion of 11 million undocumented immigrants, and a ban on accepting Muslim immigrants or refugees. It didn’t used to be politically acceptable to say these things. So I became curious. What did people say after Hitler’s rise to power?

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Anonymous Tip: A Reporter Catches Wind

Peter may not be the kind of lawyer who “tries his cases in the newspaper” but he is certainly the kind of lawyer who talks about his cases with the press without checking whether his client wants him to first. The extent to which Gwen is not included in Peter’s decisions is startling. Does this give us some sort of insight into how much Peter feels wives should be included in husbands’ decision-making, I wonder? [Read more…]

Christian Homeschool Leader Announces Conference for Arranging Child Marriages

This November, in Wichita, Kansas, fundamentalist and conservative evangelical parents will gather at a conference to create betrothals for their marriageable children—with emphasis on the word children. This conference is called Let Them Marry and will be held by fundamentalist writer Vaughn Ohlman. I’ve avoided writing about Ohlman here for a while now, but this conference is so the last straw.

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Why Do We as a Society Still Spank Our Children?

I’ve sometimes seen spanking advocates respond by arguing that studies of spanking include corporal punishment that crosses the line into child abuse, and thus do not actually show the outcome of spanking specifically. There are a variety of problems with this response—different people put that line in different places, for instance—but this study went out of its way to answer that criticism by looking only at “what most Americans would recognize as spanking” and not abuse.

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How Do I Explain Trump’s Rise to My Children?

To be perfectly honest, I’m somewhat ashamed. I’m ashamed that the grownups of this country have let things come to here, to a place where my child has to worry that her friends will be disappeared. How much harder must it be for Latino parents, or Muslim parents, having to explain Trump’s rise to their children? Perhaps an anti-Trump landslide will make it clear that we as a nation are not this hate, but that’s something I don’t feel I can count on, and that leaves me at a loss. [Read more…]

What We Need to Hear: How to Talk to Abuse Victims

I hear these responses and I grind my teeth. This is absolutely not what I need to hear. Yes, all parents make mistakes, but not all mistakes are of the same magnitude, and some mistakes are symptomatic of overall abusive patterns that have got to be called out. Furthermore, saying “all parents make mistakes” lets parents off the hook for abusive behavior. [Read more…]

ID to Pee?

The next time someone tells you they’re all for trans people being able to use the bathroom that matches their gender identity, but that Target’s policy as-is is dangerous, ask them if they’re suggesting an ID to pee policy. Point out that men can already dress as women to gain access to the women’s bathroom, and in fact, that we know they sometimes do this. Remind them that they can’t have it both ways. [Read more…]

Lesbian Duplex 66: An Open Thread

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Enjoy! [Read more…]

Saturday Link Love: Ruth Bader Ginsburg, When Rape Is Not Rape, and Bodyhackers

Saturday Link Love is a new feature where I collect and post links to various articles I’ve come upon over the past week. Feel free to share any interesting articles you’ve come along as well! The more the merrier.

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Anonymous Tip: Donna’s Melting Down

Donna takes vacation time to spend a week with her boyfriend, Stephen, at his parents’ lake house. Stephen has finished taking the bar, you see. He tries again to convince Donna that she should come with him to D.C.—“We can get married there or back here at Thanksgiving”—but Donna declines and says she has “so many doubts and so much confusion.” She’s not doing well—not well at all.

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