Conversations with Preschoolers

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Can I say how much I love having a preschooler? My life is peppered with the most fascinating conversations. Watching Sally learn and figure things out is beautiful, and often also quite humorous. Let me offer this exchange by way of example: "I'm going to marry Daddy when I grown up." "Oh no you're not! I already married him. You have to pick someone else, because he's taken."  "Then I'm going to marry Bobby."  "Sorry honey, you can't marry your brother."  "Why … [Read more...]

Growing Up Evangelical at the End of the World

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"Dad, when do you think the rapture will happen?" "Oh, probably in the next five or ten years." I was eleven. Eleven. And I trusted my dad. I respected him, a lot. He was the smartest person I knew - well read, intelligent, a thinking person. You know how doctors sometimes tell cancer patients how many years they have left to live? That's what this felt like. I had ten years. Ten. No wonder I hoped to marry and have children early. I didn't want to miss my chance. Any time I saw a … [Read more...]

Which Is More Rage-Inducing?

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I just came upon this quote made by an atheist: When I look at the relentlessly deteriorating family situation so obvious in the world around us today my conclusion regarding the source of this disaster is that American family life is being destroyed because of our willful disobedience against the natural order of relations between men and women. To put it simply; men are to provide for and protect women and women have obligations to obey men. Each individual man in turn has an obligation to … [Read more...]

Men Aren’t Sex-Addled Beasts, They’re Just Individuals

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Men are no more rapists in their natural state than I am asexual in my natural state. ~ Hannah As a young conservative evangelical, I was taught that I had to dress modestly to protect them from "stumbling" into sexual sin, and that it was natural for a guy to keep pushing for sexual favors, and it was my job to say no. I was taught that men were visual and easily aroused, and that men think about sex constantly. I was taught that men were to pursue and women were to be pursued, and that I … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part IV: Casting Out Fear at the Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Intimacy

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A guest post by Molly Part IV of An Open Letter to Joshua Harris “…I have no business asking for a girl’s heart and exclusive affections if I’m not ready to consider marriage. Until I can do that, I’d only be using that girl to meet my short-term needs, not seeking to bless her for the long term. Would I enjoy having a girlfriend right now? You bet! But I wouldn’t truly be loving her and putting her interests first” (19). “In most cases, especially when we’re younger, … [Read more...]

What Is “Sexy”?

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Danielle of From Two to One has posed a question: What does sexy mean?  She and I both know the dictionary definition, of course, which is usually something like "sexually attractive or exciting" or "sexually suggestive or stimulating." But things are are often further contextualized than a simple dictionary definition allows. One thing Danielle said especially resonated: In my middle school and teen years, sexy increasingly meant something both powerful and unsafe. It was powerful in that … [Read more...]

Dispatches from the Front Lines of the Abortion Wars

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As I get out of my car, an elderly man in a yellow vest approaches. "I'm here to volunteer," I tell him. "Then you're my replacement," he says with a smile, and starts taking off the vest. "How long have you been doing this?" I ask. "Oh, about a decade," he replies. "Why?" I press. "Because it's the right thing to do," he says. He hands me the vest and I look at it, following the black lettering with my eyes. "Planned Parenthood Escort" I put it on. "This is my first time," I … [Read more...]


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