Ticking Time Bombs of Atomic Hormones

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I've written a lot about my experiences being raised in what I call "the purity culture"---evangelicalism's obsession with the virginity and sexual ignorance of its young, an obsession that manifests itself in purity rings, purity balls, modesty teachings, and the rejection of dating. Some readers have asked what it's like for males growing up in the purity culture, and I've had to say that while I could guess, I honestly didn't know. Most of those speaking out against the purity culture have … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi’s Abuse Meter Is Broken

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 92Here we come to the end of Debi's discussion of the three types of men she lays out---Command Man, Mr. Visionary, Mr. Steady. In this summary section, Debi compares the actions that the "Ruination Wife" can take to destroy a marriage to each of the three types with the actions the "Successful Wife" can take to heal a marriage to each of the three types. Let's take a look:The Command Man The wife of Mr. Command Man can ruin her marriage by failing to h … [Read more...]

Judaism 101: Born Jewish?

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My Judaism 101 series will return in a couple of weeks, moving on to topics like the nature of God and the meaning of sin, but for the moment I want to post another rabbit trail that resulted from a previous Judaism 101 email thread. This time the panelists went off topic and discussed the issue of descent. We'll get back to the topic of what makes someone Jewish later, of course, but for the moment I found this discussion interesting because of how foreign it sounded.In my family and church … [Read more...]

Rochester University Professor Trivializes Rape of Unconscious People

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***Trigger Warning for Rape Apology*** I just read a rather horrifying post. Every time someone claims there is no such thing as rape apologia, I read a post like this. This one is by Steven Landsburg, a professor of economics at the University of Rochester. Say what? Say yes. Here are three dilemmas about public policy:Question 1:Farnsworth McCrankypants just hates the idea that someone, somewhere might be looking at pornography. It’s not that he thinks porn causes bad behavior; it’s just t … [Read more...]

On Getting Sucked In: A Homeschool Mom Speaks

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A recent post by blogger Julie Anne Smith appeared on Homeschoolers Anonymous, and it reminded me of what I wrote in my essay "Homeschooling Under the Influence." In Julie Anne's case, she's coming from the homeschool parent's perspective, speaking personally as one of those who was sucked in. My husband and I have been married 27 years and have 7 children from 25 yrs down to our 6-yr old “caboose”.  We have always homeschooled.  We have always believed that this was the best choice for our fami … [Read more...]

Dominance and Submission or a Cooperative Partnership?

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Supporters of patriarchal gender roles and hierarchical marriage relationships often argue that feminists want to pit men and women against each other, but what they don't realize is that by turning marriage into a relationship based on dominance and submission, they are the ones pitting men and women against each other. In seeking equality, feminism envisions relationships built not on dominance and submission but rather on communication and cooperation, companionship founded on mutual respect, … [Read more...]

Narnia and Tolkien, Yes. Harry Potter, No.

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Reader Alexandra McKay recently posed a question. You say that your upbringing contained both Narnia and Tolkien, but that Harry Potter was not just considered Satanic, the books themselves were even believed to harbour demons. Why is it that fundamentalists hate Harry Potter so much, but not Tolkien? Both present magic as morally neutral, usable for good or evil, and only by certain people. Is it because the wizards in Harry Potter are mortal humans, while magic in Tolkien is used only by … [Read more...]


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