CTNAHM: Anticipation (Michael Talks about Sex)


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 15---20In this Chapter, Michael talks about his first love, sex, and his first sex.  Get ready. [9 year-old Michael walks down the road after Bible school and sees a girl in a pretty dress.  He walks on the other side of the road and tries to walk "with her"]  I never spoke.  She never looked at me, but I studied her profile and her dainty little walk.  It was the most amazing and wonderful thing … [Read more...]

A Stroll in History: Suffragette Postcards

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I recently came upon a scattering of old suffragette postcards via the Atlantic and I thought I'd share. Some are pro and some are anti, and I'm betting you'll be able to figure out which are which! I didn't even know this was a thing! There are more here as well. Enjoy! … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Pick a Girl with Low Self Esteem (Yes Really)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 140-141 In the coming pages, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of your children, etc. These are important and necessary, but the buck always stops right here at the action word reverence. A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have t … [Read more...]


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When someone has trauma in their past, they are likely to have triggers. Triggers are things that transport you back your trauma, that bring up the emotions and the feelings you had at the time. When you're triggered it doesn't matter how badly your day was going, it's suddenly crap. It doesn't matter what interesting things you were working on or thinking about, they're drowned out by the feeling of tension and dread that suddenly suffuses your body from head to toe. Your sense of feeling is … [Read more...]

Sally’s Scissors and How We Teach Lessons


I have been really surprised by the response to the post I put up this morning about Sally's scissors. In that post I told what was for me an important moment of self-discovery, and I used that moment to draw out a more important point, and yet the majority of the commenters there responded by telling me that there's nothing wrong with taking away a child's scissors, that I shouldn't feel bad about acting out in anger toward Sally because everyone's human, and even that Sally was likely just … [Read more...]

“You Took My Scissors Away and Made Me Sad”


Sally has a little box with scissors and glue, and she loves cutting and pasting. She makes beautiful pictures cutting up colored paper and then gluing it together. And then, yesterday, she cut up the couch. I'll be honest: I was a bit angry. Now, I know kids are kids and these things happen, and I value my relationship with my daughter more than I do the couch, but I was still more than a little upset with her for cutting up my couch. Ouch.Anyway, I took her scissors away. I told her that … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Michael the Manly Man


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonBlogger Aletha of Yllom Mormom, a frequent reader on Love, Joy, Feminism, has taken a page out of my book and has begun a series reviewing Michael Pearl's, Created To Need A Help Meet. Michael wrote this book for men after the phenomenal success of Debi Pearl's Created To Be A Help Meet. I've been wanting to read and review it myself, but I already have my hands full in the review department, so I'm thrilled with Aletha's project. … [Read more...]