“There Was No Accountability”

Failing grade

I was recently talking to a new friend of mine, a young woman named Sarah who grew up homeschooled in the same state I did. We were talking about things like co-ops and curriculum when she admitted something."You know, I never actually studied science.""But how?" I asked."There was no accountability," she responded, shrugging.I nodded. She was right---the state we grew up in has no subject requirements or assessments, and no registration requirement."We had the Apologia … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Women Can Be Effective Leaders—So What?


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 119-121Some of you have noted that Debi's getting a bit repetitive. In future posts I'm going to try to move more quickly through parts where Debi's simply restating what she's already said. In this section, though, Debi says something I don't think she's said before. God expresses a clear and sure mandate when he tells us: "But I suffer not [do not allow] a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, [that includes your pastor] but to be in … [Read more...]

Homeschool Parents Need To Take Socialization Seriously


I've been thinking more about socialization, and I think I've reached a point of clarity. Ever since writing my first post on homeschooling and socialization several years ago, many people who attended public school have told me that they, too, had struggles with socialization, and others have insisted that there are homeschoolers who are well socialized in diverse circles and end up with no socialization problems at all. The issue is obviously more complicated than well-socialized public … [Read more...]

Why We Give Parents Power

parent power

One commenter on my post about whether children are an oppressed class had this to say: You can't give someone great responsibility without giving them equally great power. . . . If parents are going to be held responsible for their children's actions, they must have the power to curtail their children's actions. This is an important point. While I don't believe in "parental rights," I do believe that parents have responsibilities toward their children. They are tasked with ensuring that their … [Read more...]

Forward Thinking: Designing a Social Safety Net


Forward Thinking is a values development project created in collaboration with Dan Fincke of Camels with Hammers. Dan is introducing our next prompt today (head on over to see it!), but in this post I will pull together some of the responses to this month’s prompt: “How would you design our social safety net?”First, this from Eudaimonaic Laughter: This  is the first Forward Thinking project I consider genuinely easy.  What would I do for a safety net if I ruled the world?  Simple.  Single Pa … [Read more...]

Rachel Held Evans: Missing the Mark on Sexual Ethics


Rachel Held Evans has been a big critic of what I call the "purity culture"---and I think that's great!---but today she's written a post on why people should still wait for marriage to have sex. The problem with the evangelical purity culture, as I see it, isn’t that it teaches saving sex for marriage, but that it equates virginity with sexual wholeness and therefore as something that can be lost or given or taken away in a single moment. Perhaps instead of virginity…or even purity (which ca … [Read more...]

Are Children an Oppressed Class?


I've often heard that children are manipulative, but it just occurred to me that being without any real power can't help but make people turn to manipulation. After all, what other options are there? Think about it: If a preschooler wants to stop by the ice cream store, the only way she can meet that desire is to convince her parent to take her there and buy her ice cream. And the parent, in this situation, has absolute power. The parent can simply say no and that's the end of it. And it's not … [Read more...]